As I was driving through town yesterday, I saw a billboard with a picture of a snowcapped mountain and a skier flying down a black diamond run. It was pretty cool to see, especially when it is October and the temperature on the car thermometer reads 84 degrees.
The tagline above the picture read, “People dream all year of your everyday.” We live in a place that has what others want, and they can’t just drive an hour to get it. They have to plan for it. This is what they are saving for. This is their dream vacation, to come and ski the mountains of Colorado.
It was like the billboard was saying “Hey, idiot in the car down there! Don’t you see? You get to live in another person’s dreamland.”
Some advertising executive thought up this tagline, probably at some advertising agency in Los Angeles. Maybe it occurred to him while dreaming of coming to Colorado with his family for the winter.
Picture this….he is googling “Colorado mountain towns” and sees that Winter Park has some specials over the holidays. He hasn’t skied in years and his kids are now the right age to take lessons. His wife would love shopping in the village. They could all go eat dinner at that cute mountain bistro and enjoy some much needed family time.
He calls his wife and says, “Honey, you know that vacation fund we’ve been saving? Let’s take the family to Colorado this winter.” She is excited. He is excited. They hang up, and he books the trip. They have a special dinner that night to tell the kids all about their upcoming Colorado vacation. The kids start a countdown calendar. They tell all their friends, who are envious of their plans.
The time comes and they board the plane to Colorado. They land at Denver International Airport and get a shuttle to Winter Park. The town looks just like a postcard. Their hotel is at the base of the mountain. They soak in all the winter fun they can that week, and enjoy every minute of it.
On their last night, they go out to dinner and meet a group of locals. These people live in Winter Park. They ski every day in the winter. They drink hot cocoa each night by the fire. They are living this family’s dream vacation.
Now that I have painted the picture, think about this: each one of us is living someone else’s dream. Perhaps we have someone else’s dream job, or we’re in someone else’s dream marriage. Maybe we live in the kind of house someone else is saving for, or we are blessed with the kind of family relationships someone else is yearning for.
That’s the way it is in the world. We all have dreams. Sometimes, we may dream about what someone else has. Other times, someone else is dreaming about what WE have.
Here is my challenge for you today. Ask yourself these questions:
1. What is your dream? Where have you always wanted to go? What have you always wanted to experience? CAN YOU MAKE PLANS TO DO IT?
2. What do you have that could be someone else’s dream? Is there something you are taking for granted? Do you need to remind yourself how lucky you are?
As I sit here at my house in Colorado, I realize that I am grateful to be where I am…
…but boy, I sure would love to go to the beach!
Tuesday, October 12, 2010
Tuesday, September 28, 2010
The Colors of Fall
The Colors of Fall
It seems like yesterday that I was reflecting on the amazing smell of lilacs blooming in the Spring air. The grass was just starting to grow and the air was becoming warmer each day. Baseball was just getting ready to kick off its season, and I was thinking about the promise of renewal and growth that comes to us each year.
Funny how time goes by so fast. As I was walking my dogs this morning, I was struck by the fact that Fall has now stepped up to take its turn.
I sometimes get a little sad during the Fall. Not because I don't love it - what’s not to love? Turtlenecks make a comeback, football season begins, and Starbucks serves up Pumpkin Spice Lattes. But then, with Fall comes the end of so much I hold dear. The flowers start to die. The grass turns brown. The air turns colder.
I got to thinking this morning about the leaves changing colors, and how much I love the beautiful reds, yellows, and oranges. What a blessing it is to witness this glorious transformation. But the beauty we see has some interesting reasoning behind it - and please remember I am not a scientist so my explanation will be very rudimentary.
When fall comes, trees understand that the winter will bring less water and light for them to feed on. So, the trees choose to withhold water from their leaves in order to reserve their resources for winter. The lack of water causes the leaves to slowly die – and as they do they are transformed from green to vibrant yellow, orange, red, or purple.
Without the decision to neglect the leaves, we wouldn't get the beauty of the leaves changing, and the trees may not be able to withstand the difficult winter long enough to bloom again in the spring. The changing leaves remind us that making difficult decisions, though hard at the time, can bring about magnificence in our world.
Do you have a hard decision you have to make soon? If so, what magnificence can come from it?
It seems like yesterday that I was reflecting on the amazing smell of lilacs blooming in the Spring air. The grass was just starting to grow and the air was becoming warmer each day. Baseball was just getting ready to kick off its season, and I was thinking about the promise of renewal and growth that comes to us each year.
Funny how time goes by so fast. As I was walking my dogs this morning, I was struck by the fact that Fall has now stepped up to take its turn.
I sometimes get a little sad during the Fall. Not because I don't love it - what’s not to love? Turtlenecks make a comeback, football season begins, and Starbucks serves up Pumpkin Spice Lattes. But then, with Fall comes the end of so much I hold dear. The flowers start to die. The grass turns brown. The air turns colder.
I got to thinking this morning about the leaves changing colors, and how much I love the beautiful reds, yellows, and oranges. What a blessing it is to witness this glorious transformation. But the beauty we see has some interesting reasoning behind it - and please remember I am not a scientist so my explanation will be very rudimentary.
When fall comes, trees understand that the winter will bring less water and light for them to feed on. So, the trees choose to withhold water from their leaves in order to reserve their resources for winter. The lack of water causes the leaves to slowly die – and as they do they are transformed from green to vibrant yellow, orange, red, or purple.
Without the decision to neglect the leaves, we wouldn't get the beauty of the leaves changing, and the trees may not be able to withstand the difficult winter long enough to bloom again in the spring. The changing leaves remind us that making difficult decisions, though hard at the time, can bring about magnificence in our world.
Do you have a hard decision you have to make soon? If so, what magnificence can come from it?
Monday, September 20, 2010
The Beauty in Letting Go
I am a control freak. There is really no other way to say it nor no easier way to phrase it. I just always feel the need to control things.
You can imagine then, how well I do on airplanes. Flying itself doesn't scare me. I recognize that I have a better chance of dying in a car crash on the way to the airport than I do in the actual plane. But boy, does being 32,000 feet up in the air in a big metal box as a passenger scare the living heck out of me. And here is why - I have absolutely no control over anything happening while on that plane other than whether to order coffee or a glass of wine.
So, as I sit on a plane right now, on my way home from the 3rd annual Building Champions Experience, I have to wonder why it is I am such a control freak to begin with. So I figured I would reflect about my control freak tendencies and see what I come up with.
Why I am a control freak could come from many different avenues. It could come from childhood and the fact that I was the youngest child in a family of three. Growing up with a terminally ill sister that had immediate and constant needs for as long as I can remember up until her death in 1988 could explain a lot.
It could come from the fact that I struggle with insecurity and continually try to be better while feeling like I will never be good enough.
It may simply be the fact that no one I know ever wants to die in a fiery plane crash.
Either way, issues of control tend to hang over many people I know. Do you ever feel helpless or frustrated in a situation where you have no control over the outcome?
So you can imagine how surprised I was when just 4 short days earlier, on my way to the Building Champions Experience, I looked out the window at the most beautiful scene I have ever seen out of an airplane window and at once felt peace at 32,000 feet. The clouds had formed in the shape of a million cotton balls lined up to shield the view of the ground from me. The mountains near San Francisco rose above the clouds and seemed to glorify in their presence so high up. The blue sky above was calling out its song of beauty, bragging as if it had never been this beautiful. I was in awe. It was as if I had finally relaxed around the control issue and felt no need to ever have again. There was - at that moment - beauty in letting go. It was, quite possibly, one of the most amazing moments I have ever experienced. Like if I had died at the moment, I would have died completely satisfied.
What is it you need to let go of today that stops you from living the life you truly deserve? I promise you - if you do let go you'll be happier than you ever have.
Tuesday, August 31, 2010
Van 2
VAN 2 - A Lesson in Team Building
This week I was supposed to talk all about the gift of encouragement. Please allow me to sidetrack. I promise to get back to that next week (unless something else comes up - ha ha).
Last Thursday I flew to Portland, OR to participate in a race called Hood to Coast. For those of you that don't know what Hood to Coast is - it is a 197 mile relay race that starts at Mt. Hood and ends at the beach in Oregon. It is a truly amazing experience.
And when I say an amazing experience, I don't say it because of the actual race. That is fun, challenging and a truly incredible accomplishment. I use the word amazing to describe the team building and friendship making that goes on before, during and after the race.
A team is made up of 12 runners. Each team uses 2 vans - 6 in each van (for those of you reading this before you drink your coffee this morning, I figured I would do the math for you). Van 1 runs the first 6 legs, van 2 runs legs 7 - 12.
I was in Van 2. The only person I knew was my boss, Barry. I was introduced to the other 4 runners the night before the race at a BBQ. They seemed nice. Boy, nice doesn't even begin to describe these individuals.
The next day we head out and our individual personalities start kicking in. We had the encourager (me), the daddy (Jay), the blogger (Kelly), the boss (Barry), the early adopter (Scott) and the saver (Bill). Each of us bonding in an environment where teams are either built up or broken down. We were lucky to have a team that lifted each of us up. We knew we would all get along, but none of us expected the kind of friendship we built as we physically, emotionally and mentally challenged ourselves in a race dubbed "The mother of all relays."
By the end of the race we had each used our God given gifts to motivate and encourage each other to accomplish the most rigorous physical test most of us have ever gone through. Without each other we would not have made those late night legs. Without each other our friends and family would not have shared the experience through the blog that was created. Without each other we would have had to run the leg our bodies wouldn't allow us to run. Without each other we would have never made it to the next stop in time. Without each other we would have never taken the time to rehydrate and stretch. And, without each other we wouldn't have laughed hysterically while watching YouTube videos of crazy news stories.
No matter what "race" you are running today, we all need team members to lift us up when we are down. To cheer for us from the sidelines. To give us courage as we take on challenges that we have never taken on before. And, most importantly, to allow us to continue running even when we are in pain (either physical or emotional).
Who do you have in your van?
This week I was supposed to talk all about the gift of encouragement. Please allow me to sidetrack. I promise to get back to that next week (unless something else comes up - ha ha).
Last Thursday I flew to Portland, OR to participate in a race called Hood to Coast. For those of you that don't know what Hood to Coast is - it is a 197 mile relay race that starts at Mt. Hood and ends at the beach in Oregon. It is a truly amazing experience.
And when I say an amazing experience, I don't say it because of the actual race. That is fun, challenging and a truly incredible accomplishment. I use the word amazing to describe the team building and friendship making that goes on before, during and after the race.
A team is made up of 12 runners. Each team uses 2 vans - 6 in each van (for those of you reading this before you drink your coffee this morning, I figured I would do the math for you). Van 1 runs the first 6 legs, van 2 runs legs 7 - 12.
I was in Van 2. The only person I knew was my boss, Barry. I was introduced to the other 4 runners the night before the race at a BBQ. They seemed nice. Boy, nice doesn't even begin to describe these individuals.
The next day we head out and our individual personalities start kicking in. We had the encourager (me), the daddy (Jay), the blogger (Kelly), the boss (Barry), the early adopter (Scott) and the saver (Bill). Each of us bonding in an environment where teams are either built up or broken down. We were lucky to have a team that lifted each of us up. We knew we would all get along, but none of us expected the kind of friendship we built as we physically, emotionally and mentally challenged ourselves in a race dubbed "The mother of all relays."
By the end of the race we had each used our God given gifts to motivate and encourage each other to accomplish the most rigorous physical test most of us have ever gone through. Without each other we would not have made those late night legs. Without each other our friends and family would not have shared the experience through the blog that was created. Without each other we would have had to run the leg our bodies wouldn't allow us to run. Without each other we would have never made it to the next stop in time. Without each other we would have never taken the time to rehydrate and stretch. And, without each other we wouldn't have laughed hysterically while watching YouTube videos of crazy news stories.
No matter what "race" you are running today, we all need team members to lift us up when we are down. To cheer for us from the sidelines. To give us courage as we take on challenges that we have never taken on before. And, most importantly, to allow us to continue running even when we are in pain (either physical or emotional).
Who do you have in your van?
Tuesday, August 24, 2010
USING THE GIFTS WE HAVE BEEN GIVEN - THE GIFT OF WISDOM
We have all been given certain gifts in our lives that, when identified, cultivated and used properly, can have a huge impact on the people around us. Of course, the opposite is also true. If not identified, cultivated or used properly, it can have a huge impact on the people around us as well. Which type of impact (positive or negative) is up to you.
Mahatma Gandhi says: "Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever."
What a true statement to how we should be living. If we are continual learners, than it is only natural that we will continue to learn how to use these given gifts to the best and highest use.
Wikipedia describes wisdom as this - comprehension of what is true or right coupled with optimum judgment as to action.
Knowing the meaning of wisdom as well as the impact it can have on those around you - I ask you today - is wisdom a gift of yours? How would you even know? Try this:
1. Ask yourself if you have passion around wisdom. Do you have motivation to have it? (rate yourself based on 1 being no motivation/passion - 5 being extreme motivation/passion).
2. Ask yourself if you have experience with wisdom. (rate yourself based on 1 being no experience - 5 being extreme experience).
What scores did you give yourself? If you rates 8 - 10, you probably have the gift of wisdom. Now, what to do with it (in case you aren't already doing something now).
Consider this - people with the gift of wisdom oftentimes are great at helping others see truth in their lives. This may mean that you are the person your friends or family come to for advice. You may also have wonderful teaching skills that helps people navigate through tough decisions. Keep in mind - this gift is powerful and should not be used with a lot of pride. Keep your pride in check while helping others and you'll be on your way to having a positive impact in all the lives you encounter.
Next week - The gift of encouragement
*Side note - I recognize that some of you reading this may read the Bible and some of you may not. This article, though biblical based, can and should be applicable to all people of all faiths and beliefs. Wisdom isn't a gift just for the Christian. I hope you enjoy the next few weeks as we explore gifts together.
Mahatma Gandhi says: "Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever."
What a true statement to how we should be living. If we are continual learners, than it is only natural that we will continue to learn how to use these given gifts to the best and highest use.
Wikipedia describes wisdom as this - comprehension of what is true or right coupled with optimum judgment as to action.
Knowing the meaning of wisdom as well as the impact it can have on those around you - I ask you today - is wisdom a gift of yours? How would you even know? Try this:
1. Ask yourself if you have passion around wisdom. Do you have motivation to have it? (rate yourself based on 1 being no motivation/passion - 5 being extreme motivation/passion).
2. Ask yourself if you have experience with wisdom. (rate yourself based on 1 being no experience - 5 being extreme experience).
What scores did you give yourself? If you rates 8 - 10, you probably have the gift of wisdom. Now, what to do with it (in case you aren't already doing something now).
Consider this - people with the gift of wisdom oftentimes are great at helping others see truth in their lives. This may mean that you are the person your friends or family come to for advice. You may also have wonderful teaching skills that helps people navigate through tough decisions. Keep in mind - this gift is powerful and should not be used with a lot of pride. Keep your pride in check while helping others and you'll be on your way to having a positive impact in all the lives you encounter.
Next week - The gift of encouragement
*Side note - I recognize that some of you reading this may read the Bible and some of you may not. This article, though biblical based, can and should be applicable to all people of all faiths and beliefs. Wisdom isn't a gift just for the Christian. I hope you enjoy the next few weeks as we explore gifts together.
Wednesday, August 18, 2010
Walking is wonderful
Today I decided to skip my scheduled run and just walk. I have been running so much in preparation for The Hood to Coast next weekend that I forgot how beautiful the air was in the morning, and how lovely the flowers are.
It is kind of like that in everything we do in life - isn't it. We are driving so much, so we decide to bike ride every once in a while and we notice things we didn't notice in the car. We run so much that the day we decide to walk we, again, notice the things that speed by us too fast while running.
It happens in our marriage, with our kids, or with our clients as well. We are so busy speeding through what needs to be done that we forget to take joy in the simple pleasures that are brought to us.
Did you know that quiet time is one of the core disciplines we should schedule time for each week? Without quiet time, we cannot truly listen to what we need to hear. Without quiet time we cannot truly see what we need to see. Our senses go into overload when we just stop and pay attention. And boy, there is so much to pay attention to.
Today, during my busy coaching day, my husband asked if I could go out to lunch with him. At first I just kind of laughed and then looked at him like he suggested we fly to the moon and back. I mean, I have 1 hour for lunch and then I have to be sitting in my coaching chair preparing for my afternoon sessions. I couldn't possibly have time to go out to eat. I suggested he bring me back some fish tacos (he was heading to Wahoo's - which has the best fish tacos if you are into that sort of thing). He wasn't buying that idea. After thinking about it, I realized that I would probably just go read my book during lunch anyways, so why wouldn't I jump in the car and go with him. I made him promise we would be back in 1 hour.
Not only were we back in time, but I had time to spare and the memory of us sitting in the sun and eating a wonderful meal together. So worth the effort.
Whether it is going for a walk versus a run, having lunch with your hubby versus gobbling down something quick, or anything else you always get stuck doing - I encourage you to each stop for a moment allow yourself the freedom to have some much needed quiet time.
It is kind of like that in everything we do in life - isn't it. We are driving so much, so we decide to bike ride every once in a while and we notice things we didn't notice in the car. We run so much that the day we decide to walk we, again, notice the things that speed by us too fast while running.
It happens in our marriage, with our kids, or with our clients as well. We are so busy speeding through what needs to be done that we forget to take joy in the simple pleasures that are brought to us.
Did you know that quiet time is one of the core disciplines we should schedule time for each week? Without quiet time, we cannot truly listen to what we need to hear. Without quiet time we cannot truly see what we need to see. Our senses go into overload when we just stop and pay attention. And boy, there is so much to pay attention to.
Today, during my busy coaching day, my husband asked if I could go out to lunch with him. At first I just kind of laughed and then looked at him like he suggested we fly to the moon and back. I mean, I have 1 hour for lunch and then I have to be sitting in my coaching chair preparing for my afternoon sessions. I couldn't possibly have time to go out to eat. I suggested he bring me back some fish tacos (he was heading to Wahoo's - which has the best fish tacos if you are into that sort of thing). He wasn't buying that idea. After thinking about it, I realized that I would probably just go read my book during lunch anyways, so why wouldn't I jump in the car and go with him. I made him promise we would be back in 1 hour.
Not only were we back in time, but I had time to spare and the memory of us sitting in the sun and eating a wonderful meal together. So worth the effort.
Whether it is going for a walk versus a run, having lunch with your hubby versus gobbling down something quick, or anything else you always get stuck doing - I encourage you to each stop for a moment allow yourself the freedom to have some much needed quiet time.
Monday, August 16, 2010
Do You Have a Dream?
I start my newsletter again this week with a video - one I am sure we have all seen or at least heard of. Please take a look.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iEMXaTktUfA
That famous Martin Luther King, Jr. "I have a dream" speech is great. It is, was and will be one of the most amazing and moving speeches ever written. It touches each of us in a different way. Some will watch with tears in our eyes because we have felt racism. Some will watch with pride because we have helped advance his dream. Some will be sad because we still have so far to go.
My purpose of sharing this video with you today is to showcase just how important it is for us to have a dream. Because without one, we are just a bag flesh and bones walking around this Earth and in our lives without a true purpose. With dreams we can focus our energy on doing those activities that help us reach those dreams. Without dreams we are like a weary traveller without a destination. With dreams we have shared and common goals with those around us. Without dreams we are alone and vacant of community and companionship.
So, if you are reading this and do not have a dream for your future - get one (heck - get 100). It doesn't have to be Martin Luther King, Jr. big. But it has to be big to you. It might be to finally take a cruise to a favorite travel destination. You might dream of owning your own home one day. Your dream may be simply to find the love of your life. Whatever it is - write it down. Create a timeline for reaching that dream and then start working on what has to happen for you to realize it. Think about being very specific. Martin Luther King, Jr. was extremely specific in his speech. He spoke of black boys and girls in Alabama being friends with white black and boys. He talked about working together, praying together, struggling together knowing that everyone will be free one day. What a visionary he was. His life was cut short, and honestly (and without sounding morbid) your life may also be cut short before reaching your dream, but you still have to have one. We aren't guaranteed a tomorrow in this life - but that doesn't mean we don't work and sweat for what we want today. Share your dreams with your family, your friends, with me. Get people on board to help keep you accountable to reaching that dream. Have friends share ideas on how to get there sooner. Find resources to realize your dream efficiently. It's out there - right in front of you - can you see it? I can.
You can do it - no matter what your dream is - you can do it. Start today.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iEMXaTktUfA
That famous Martin Luther King, Jr. "I have a dream" speech is great. It is, was and will be one of the most amazing and moving speeches ever written. It touches each of us in a different way. Some will watch with tears in our eyes because we have felt racism. Some will watch with pride because we have helped advance his dream. Some will be sad because we still have so far to go.
My purpose of sharing this video with you today is to showcase just how important it is for us to have a dream. Because without one, we are just a bag flesh and bones walking around this Earth and in our lives without a true purpose. With dreams we can focus our energy on doing those activities that help us reach those dreams. Without dreams we are like a weary traveller without a destination. With dreams we have shared and common goals with those around us. Without dreams we are alone and vacant of community and companionship.
So, if you are reading this and do not have a dream for your future - get one (heck - get 100). It doesn't have to be Martin Luther King, Jr. big. But it has to be big to you. It might be to finally take a cruise to a favorite travel destination. You might dream of owning your own home one day. Your dream may be simply to find the love of your life. Whatever it is - write it down. Create a timeline for reaching that dream and then start working on what has to happen for you to realize it. Think about being very specific. Martin Luther King, Jr. was extremely specific in his speech. He spoke of black boys and girls in Alabama being friends with white black and boys. He talked about working together, praying together, struggling together knowing that everyone will be free one day. What a visionary he was. His life was cut short, and honestly (and without sounding morbid) your life may also be cut short before reaching your dream, but you still have to have one. We aren't guaranteed a tomorrow in this life - but that doesn't mean we don't work and sweat for what we want today. Share your dreams with your family, your friends, with me. Get people on board to help keep you accountable to reaching that dream. Have friends share ideas on how to get there sooner. Find resources to realize your dream efficiently. It's out there - right in front of you - can you see it? I can.
You can do it - no matter what your dream is - you can do it. Start today.
Monday, August 9, 2010
Finding True Meaning in your Life
Check out this video:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LfeXxkbgCVE
When I first saw this video, I was taken by how service oriented it was. I mean, come on, it is called Get Service. But then I got to thinking that sometimes I am that guy in the car. Sometimes I am the guy serving coffee, or the girl sitting on the bistro sofa. On any given day - I could be anyone of those people on the video. And so could you.
Last week, in a coaching session I was talking to a client about finding meaning in life (of course they know who they are - I asked for permission to use my quote with ya'll). My statement to this client was "in our quest to find the true meaning in EVERYTHING we do, we forget to find any meaning in ANYTHING that we do." That really hit home with my client - and with me. I actually wrote down the quote and reflected on it over the last few days.
Then, I get to work today and Coach Steve sends over this video and the dots just seemed to get connected. Let me tell you what I mean.
Sometimes we're so busy being meaningful that the ones in our life get left behind. Our "quest" as I state above shouldn't be about doing everything right, with the highest impact, each and every time we do something. It should be about finding the meaning in what we do and for those we are doing it with/for.
The video reflects that pretty well. How many people are hurt, in mourning, or just need a break - but we are too busy with our own lives to see it? How many people do we push aside in order to achieve excellence in a completely meaningless task? Maybe it is time for each of us to "own" a special pair of glasses that force us to see the truth in those around us. I wish I could figure out where to get a pair myself.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LfeXxkbgCVE
When I first saw this video, I was taken by how service oriented it was. I mean, come on, it is called Get Service. But then I got to thinking that sometimes I am that guy in the car. Sometimes I am the guy serving coffee, or the girl sitting on the bistro sofa. On any given day - I could be anyone of those people on the video. And so could you.
Last week, in a coaching session I was talking to a client about finding meaning in life (of course they know who they are - I asked for permission to use my quote with ya'll). My statement to this client was "in our quest to find the true meaning in EVERYTHING we do, we forget to find any meaning in ANYTHING that we do." That really hit home with my client - and with me. I actually wrote down the quote and reflected on it over the last few days.
Then, I get to work today and Coach Steve sends over this video and the dots just seemed to get connected. Let me tell you what I mean.
Sometimes we're so busy being meaningful that the ones in our life get left behind. Our "quest" as I state above shouldn't be about doing everything right, with the highest impact, each and every time we do something. It should be about finding the meaning in what we do and for those we are doing it with/for.
The video reflects that pretty well. How many people are hurt, in mourning, or just need a break - but we are too busy with our own lives to see it? How many people do we push aside in order to achieve excellence in a completely meaningless task? Maybe it is time for each of us to "own" a special pair of glasses that force us to see the truth in those around us. I wish I could figure out where to get a pair myself.
Wednesday, August 4, 2010
Just Ask
When considering what I was going to write about this week, I really felt torn. Of course I could have written about execution, initiation, motivation or any other "tion" word that business professionals love to talk about. Heck, I love to talk about that stuff too. So it was no surprise when I reflected back on my coaching notes this week and discovered another word that seemed to be a theme during my sessions. CONFUSION.
Confusion about what is expected of them. Confusion about why their employees just weren't getting it. Confusion surrounding procedures or policies. Confusion on keeping the peace in their families.
So today I want to talk about something I like to title "Just Ask".
Think of "just ask" as your invitation to talk to your employer, your employees, your customers. Think of being transparent with those in your life, and not being afraid to ask questions that will clarify uncomfortable or unknown situations.
For example, if you are experiencing low morale at work, ask your employees why this is happening. You might do it in the form of an anonymous survey, a suggestion box or something similar. If people are taking the time to fill out those items, then take the time to read them and consider how to implement their ideas with the desire to make it better. Look for common themes in their responses. Does the majority of your employees feel unappreciated? If so, schedule in some appreciation in whatever form you feel would fit.
"Just ask" is applicable with employees, employers, family or friends. Getting to the bottom of what is going on is easier than you think. Sometimes you need to "JUST ASK".
Confusion about what is expected of them. Confusion about why their employees just weren't getting it. Confusion surrounding procedures or policies. Confusion on keeping the peace in their families.
So today I want to talk about something I like to title "Just Ask".
Think of "just ask" as your invitation to talk to your employer, your employees, your customers. Think of being transparent with those in your life, and not being afraid to ask questions that will clarify uncomfortable or unknown situations.
For example, if you are experiencing low morale at work, ask your employees why this is happening. You might do it in the form of an anonymous survey, a suggestion box or something similar. If people are taking the time to fill out those items, then take the time to read them and consider how to implement their ideas with the desire to make it better. Look for common themes in their responses. Does the majority of your employees feel unappreciated? If so, schedule in some appreciation in whatever form you feel would fit.
"Just ask" is applicable with employees, employers, family or friends. Getting to the bottom of what is going on is easier than you think. Sometimes you need to "JUST ASK".
Wednesday, July 28, 2010
Exercise Those Muscles
I take private Pilate's instruction with a wonderful teacher named Brooke. She has been working with me over the past month or so on engaging certain muscles and muscle groups to become stronger.
At first I honestly didn't have a clue how I was going to ever get to the point where I could scoop out my belly and roll myself down onto the machine. I mean, yeah, I understood what she was saying, but understanding it and making my body do it are two different things.
I started noticing how I engage my muscles yesterday while doing some hill runs. In the past I would plow through them, but my back would hurt a little afterwards. Yesterday I decided to make a small shift in my spine (engaging my abs and pushing my hips forward just a little as I was running up hill) and do you know what happened? I ran faster and had no pain afterwards.
This morning, while in Pilate's, I told Brooke about the run. She just smiled (the kind of smile you get when you are trying to teach someone something and then all of a sudden they get it) and said she was proud of me.
OK - so I have been talking about working out in today's post - but the analogy I am trying to get at is that no matter what we do in life, sometimes it is the small adjustments that have the biggest impact. If you are a sales person, making just a small adjustment to a prospect call script could mean the difference between losing or getting the sale.
Think about the "business muscles" you either have not developed or have been resting for awhile. Are there any "strength moves" you could do to bulk them up? Can you lift heavier weights while at work (it's analogy folks - remember? I am not suggesting lifting actual weights - I am suggesting doing something harder, or with more effort). Are there more people you need to incorporate into your work "workouts"?
What can you gain today by putting forth more effort? Just engaging on a deeper level may have you running those hills faster and more efficiently in no time.
At first I honestly didn't have a clue how I was going to ever get to the point where I could scoop out my belly and roll myself down onto the machine. I mean, yeah, I understood what she was saying, but understanding it and making my body do it are two different things.
I started noticing how I engage my muscles yesterday while doing some hill runs. In the past I would plow through them, but my back would hurt a little afterwards. Yesterday I decided to make a small shift in my spine (engaging my abs and pushing my hips forward just a little as I was running up hill) and do you know what happened? I ran faster and had no pain afterwards.
This morning, while in Pilate's, I told Brooke about the run. She just smiled (the kind of smile you get when you are trying to teach someone something and then all of a sudden they get it) and said she was proud of me.
OK - so I have been talking about working out in today's post - but the analogy I am trying to get at is that no matter what we do in life, sometimes it is the small adjustments that have the biggest impact. If you are a sales person, making just a small adjustment to a prospect call script could mean the difference between losing or getting the sale.
Think about the "business muscles" you either have not developed or have been resting for awhile. Are there any "strength moves" you could do to bulk them up? Can you lift heavier weights while at work (it's analogy folks - remember? I am not suggesting lifting actual weights - I am suggesting doing something harder, or with more effort). Are there more people you need to incorporate into your work "workouts"?
What can you gain today by putting forth more effort? Just engaging on a deeper level may have you running those hills faster and more efficiently in no time.
Monday, July 26, 2010
What do you say?
Reba McIntyre sings a song called What Do You Say. For all my country music loving friends reading this, you probably remember it coming out in the 90's. I really like it.
The song is about what to say in uncomfortable situations. She gives a few examples. One is what to say to your young son when he asks what the XXX means outside of an adult bookstore. Another is what to say to your teenage daughter when she calls to ask you to pick her up from a party because she drank too much. Her last is what to say to a spouse on their death bed. Check out the 3 lines of lyrics below:
What do you say in a moment like this
When you can't find the words to tell it like it is
Just bite your tongue and let your heart lead the way
It seems that each day we all get an opportunity to speak the truth to those that we love or those that we lead. It is a privilege to get to be the person that communicates this truth to those in our lives. The catch is, sometimes it isn't something someone wants to hear. Or, we may not be speaking it with kindness or compassion.
Communication is tricky. We each have our own style, and it is comfortable for us to communicate in that style. For example - you may be a people person, social butterfly, life of the party type of communicator. You love to speak with enthusiasm and are optimistic that those you speak to want to hear what you have to say. Well, if you are speaking to a introverted, task oriented individual, you could come across as overly enthusiastic and disorganized - which in turn will shut down that introverted individual.
On the flip side, if you are an extremely detail oriented individual - loading up someone who is not with too many details is a no-no.
So, how do you figure out how to speak truth to someone who may not share your communication style? First, consider getting a DISC profile. It will spell out exactly how you like to be communicated to as well as take you through an exercise to identify those in your life and what style they fit into. Also, if you are a leader, consider getting your team profiled as well. Second, take a moment to slow down and think about the person you are talking to. Don't jump to conclusions about them or their specific profile. Ask yourself to pause before speaking truth to them, and then consider how to move forward with your communication.
The better you communicate with those around you, the more opportunity you'll have to positively impact their lives.
The song is about what to say in uncomfortable situations. She gives a few examples. One is what to say to your young son when he asks what the XXX means outside of an adult bookstore. Another is what to say to your teenage daughter when she calls to ask you to pick her up from a party because she drank too much. Her last is what to say to a spouse on their death bed. Check out the 3 lines of lyrics below:
What do you say in a moment like this
When you can't find the words to tell it like it is
Just bite your tongue and let your heart lead the way
It seems that each day we all get an opportunity to speak the truth to those that we love or those that we lead. It is a privilege to get to be the person that communicates this truth to those in our lives. The catch is, sometimes it isn't something someone wants to hear. Or, we may not be speaking it with kindness or compassion.
Communication is tricky. We each have our own style, and it is comfortable for us to communicate in that style. For example - you may be a people person, social butterfly, life of the party type of communicator. You love to speak with enthusiasm and are optimistic that those you speak to want to hear what you have to say. Well, if you are speaking to a introverted, task oriented individual, you could come across as overly enthusiastic and disorganized - which in turn will shut down that introverted individual.
On the flip side, if you are an extremely detail oriented individual - loading up someone who is not with too many details is a no-no.
So, how do you figure out how to speak truth to someone who may not share your communication style? First, consider getting a DISC profile. It will spell out exactly how you like to be communicated to as well as take you through an exercise to identify those in your life and what style they fit into. Also, if you are a leader, consider getting your team profiled as well. Second, take a moment to slow down and think about the person you are talking to. Don't jump to conclusions about them or their specific profile. Ask yourself to pause before speaking truth to them, and then consider how to move forward with your communication.
The better you communicate with those around you, the more opportunity you'll have to positively impact their lives.
Wednesday, July 21, 2010
Swing Vote
Today I watched the movie Swing Vote. If you haven't seen it - I highly recommend it.
Besides the humor, the great cast (Kevin Costner, the late/great Denis Hopper, Stanley Tucci, Kelsey Grammer and more) and the wonderful daddy/daughter moments in the movie, I really felt drawn in by the overall message.
Or should I say the overall two messages that I took away from the movie.
One - never trade in your convictions and your long term goals for a short term victory. It was pretty comical how the Democrat (Denis Hopper) was spouting pro-life support and anti-immigration in order to get Kevin Costner's character to like him. It was equally laughable to see the Republican (Kesley Grammer)running an add for gay marriage and green living. What wasn't funny was the fact that many of us out there today (me included at times - I don't sit here in judgement) toss aside our beliefs if we feel it will "win" us something in return. I don't mean we'll kill people to get the last iPad, I mean the more important, everyday stuff like respect, humility, patience.
Two - when are we going to wake up and realize that if we don't start helping people now, tomorrow we may not have a chance (yes, I understand I say this a lot in my posts - repetition is after all the mother of persuasion isn't it). A great line from that movie goes something like this, "If we are the richest country in the world, why can't so many of us afford to live here." Wow, that really hit me pretty hard today. I ask myself, what am I doing to change that? What can I do to step up my commitment to helping? How can I be more proactive?
So, for a little movie I thought would be a refreshing 2 hour break from all of my thinking, it made me think the whole way through.
If you don't have a set of values that you live by, by all means, figure them out, write them down, and share them with those important to you. Then, the next time you have to make a decision, pull them out and ask yourself if the decision will honor your stated values.
Also, if you aren't contributing to this world we live in right now, consider how you can. What talents, hobbies or interests do you have that can make a difference in the lives of those around you? If you are already doing something, consider if you feel it is enough. It may be - and if that is the case - I want to thank you. If it isn't - step up and do more. You'll be the better for it, and so will the rest of us.
And finally, if you haven't seen the movie - rent it. It was a great one to watch and I believe Denis Hopper's last.
Besides the humor, the great cast (Kevin Costner, the late/great Denis Hopper, Stanley Tucci, Kelsey Grammer and more) and the wonderful daddy/daughter moments in the movie, I really felt drawn in by the overall message.
Or should I say the overall two messages that I took away from the movie.
One - never trade in your convictions and your long term goals for a short term victory. It was pretty comical how the Democrat (Denis Hopper) was spouting pro-life support and anti-immigration in order to get Kevin Costner's character to like him. It was equally laughable to see the Republican (Kesley Grammer)running an add for gay marriage and green living. What wasn't funny was the fact that many of us out there today (me included at times - I don't sit here in judgement) toss aside our beliefs if we feel it will "win" us something in return. I don't mean we'll kill people to get the last iPad, I mean the more important, everyday stuff like respect, humility, patience.
Two - when are we going to wake up and realize that if we don't start helping people now, tomorrow we may not have a chance (yes, I understand I say this a lot in my posts - repetition is after all the mother of persuasion isn't it). A great line from that movie goes something like this, "If we are the richest country in the world, why can't so many of us afford to live here." Wow, that really hit me pretty hard today. I ask myself, what am I doing to change that? What can I do to step up my commitment to helping? How can I be more proactive?
So, for a little movie I thought would be a refreshing 2 hour break from all of my thinking, it made me think the whole way through.
If you don't have a set of values that you live by, by all means, figure them out, write them down, and share them with those important to you. Then, the next time you have to make a decision, pull them out and ask yourself if the decision will honor your stated values.
Also, if you aren't contributing to this world we live in right now, consider how you can. What talents, hobbies or interests do you have that can make a difference in the lives of those around you? If you are already doing something, consider if you feel it is enough. It may be - and if that is the case - I want to thank you. If it isn't - step up and do more. You'll be the better for it, and so will the rest of us.
And finally, if you haven't seen the movie - rent it. It was a great one to watch and I believe Denis Hopper's last.
A Change Is A Coming
As I mentioned I am making some changes to my blog.
First - I will be merging this personal blog into a professional blog with Building Champions. I am very excited. This will take my viewership from about 60 to over 400 - yeah.
Second - I bought a car. Yes folks, I said it, I bought a car. A Mercedes to boot, so the four month experiment turned into a two month experiment. I guess I should be upset or disappointed with myself but in actuality I am quite proud.
Proud because I really learned a lesson about myself. I learned that I wasn't as shallow as I thought I was. That I wasn't as vain as I thought. That I love the city I live in and the people who live here. That I am kind and that I give back.
Now, I am not trying to pump myself up and brag about myself. I am just trying to show you that when you reflect on yourself, really reflect, you come to realize that you aren't a horrible person and you free yourself up to fall in love with yourself.
How many of you need that today? How many of you reading this beat yourself up for all the little things you do wrong and forget to pat yourself on the back for all the things you are doing right?
First - I will be merging this personal blog into a professional blog with Building Champions. I am very excited. This will take my viewership from about 60 to over 400 - yeah.
Second - I bought a car. Yes folks, I said it, I bought a car. A Mercedes to boot, so the four month experiment turned into a two month experiment. I guess I should be upset or disappointed with myself but in actuality I am quite proud.
Proud because I really learned a lesson about myself. I learned that I wasn't as shallow as I thought I was. That I wasn't as vain as I thought. That I love the city I live in and the people who live here. That I am kind and that I give back.
Now, I am not trying to pump myself up and brag about myself. I am just trying to show you that when you reflect on yourself, really reflect, you come to realize that you aren't a horrible person and you free yourself up to fall in love with yourself.
How many of you need that today? How many of you reading this beat yourself up for all the little things you do wrong and forget to pat yourself on the back for all the things you are doing right?
Monday, July 19, 2010
What If?
If you ask anyone from the ages of 10 - 35 what time is it - they don't look at their watches - they look at their cell phone for the answer. Have you ever noticed that?
If you drive down the street and look at the drivers in the cars next to you - they are talking on their phones - not looking at the road in front of them. Have you ever noticed that?
If you go to a restaurant and observe the patrons sitting around you - they are surfing the web or texting their friends - not talking to the people at the table with them. Have you ever noticed that?
One more for fun. If you have to connect with a prospect or update a client of a product or service - you email them instead of picking up the phone and calling them or getting in the car to go see them. Have you ever noticed that?
Now I am not saying that we shouldn't use every resource we have to live a more efficient life. I don't believe in wasting time just for times sake. Heck - I even coach my clients to use their time more efficiently in order to be able to get more done. But what I do notice is that we have gone from a society of relationship builders and maintainers to a society of "get it done as quickly as possible so that I can get to the next person" people.
What if we just focused on the people in front of us? What if we gave the gift everyone of us desires and deserves - the gift of undivided attention. What if we made a little less money - but we impacted peoples life more positively - MORE. What if we just put down that phone during a family meal and asked our kids how they are doing?
I know that earning a living and being more efficient is important. But is it more important than raising good kids, than being a good spouse, than loving our neighbors?
I hope you all consider this today - as you start a busy work week. Where can you be more present in the lives of the people that matter most to you this week?
I just hope that once my boss reads this I don't get a "Jerry McGuire like" send off.
If you drive down the street and look at the drivers in the cars next to you - they are talking on their phones - not looking at the road in front of them. Have you ever noticed that?
If you go to a restaurant and observe the patrons sitting around you - they are surfing the web or texting their friends - not talking to the people at the table with them. Have you ever noticed that?
One more for fun. If you have to connect with a prospect or update a client of a product or service - you email them instead of picking up the phone and calling them or getting in the car to go see them. Have you ever noticed that?
Now I am not saying that we shouldn't use every resource we have to live a more efficient life. I don't believe in wasting time just for times sake. Heck - I even coach my clients to use their time more efficiently in order to be able to get more done. But what I do notice is that we have gone from a society of relationship builders and maintainers to a society of "get it done as quickly as possible so that I can get to the next person" people.
What if we just focused on the people in front of us? What if we gave the gift everyone of us desires and deserves - the gift of undivided attention. What if we made a little less money - but we impacted peoples life more positively - MORE. What if we just put down that phone during a family meal and asked our kids how they are doing?
I know that earning a living and being more efficient is important. But is it more important than raising good kids, than being a good spouse, than loving our neighbors?
I hope you all consider this today - as you start a busy work week. Where can you be more present in the lives of the people that matter most to you this week?
I just hope that once my boss reads this I don't get a "Jerry McGuire like" send off.
Thursday, July 15, 2010
Inside or Out?
Today I have to do what is called Fartlek's. For those of you out there that aren't runners, they are when you run at a regular pace, then sprint during certain times, and then return - all within the distance allocated on your run sheet for that day.
I enjoy doing them on my treadmill for several reasons. The primary reason being that I can monitor how fast I run and increase or decrease my speed in a controlled environment. This is the control freak in me I guess (ok, no guessing, this is the control freak in me).
I know that when you are training for something it is best to mirror the conditions of the race, but I really hate to do speed work outside. Also, I don't plan on sprinting or doing any speed work during my 3 legs of the Hood To Coast race in August, so am I really hurting my training by being on the treadmill? I mean, does it matter if I run inside during these days?
So I got to thinking, how much of the things we do right now or the choices we have to make today are do or die situations? What if we allowed ourselves to just relax and take a different path to doing what needs to be done. Now, I am not endorsing mediocrity I promise. I am just saying it is ok to give ourselves permission to do something not deemed "the best way" every once in awhile (or in this case - each Thursday). What do you have on your to do list today that you can accomplish differently?
I enjoy doing them on my treadmill for several reasons. The primary reason being that I can monitor how fast I run and increase or decrease my speed in a controlled environment. This is the control freak in me I guess (ok, no guessing, this is the control freak in me).
I know that when you are training for something it is best to mirror the conditions of the race, but I really hate to do speed work outside. Also, I don't plan on sprinting or doing any speed work during my 3 legs of the Hood To Coast race in August, so am I really hurting my training by being on the treadmill? I mean, does it matter if I run inside during these days?
So I got to thinking, how much of the things we do right now or the choices we have to make today are do or die situations? What if we allowed ourselves to just relax and take a different path to doing what needs to be done. Now, I am not endorsing mediocrity I promise. I am just saying it is ok to give ourselves permission to do something not deemed "the best way" every once in awhile (or in this case - each Thursday). What do you have on your to do list today that you can accomplish differently?
Wednesday, July 14, 2010
The Irresistible Revolution
First I would like to thank my friend Jen Jones for recommending the book Irresistible Revolution by Jim Wallis. I just started it yesterday - but - Oh My Gosh it is GREAT.
Yesterday Rich and I ate dinner on our patio. The weather was perfect. It was during our after dinner - relaxing time - that I told Rich how overwhelmed I have been feeling lately. It is like I woke up last week and said "how the heck did I get here?" When did I become an adult. One that has to take care of a household, hold down a full time job and be a step mother to GROWN kids? I am not sure if what is going on with me is just a stressful time or the fact that I turn 40 in 6 months and maybe the concept of a mid-life crisis isn't so crazy after all. Anyways, I was feeling overwhelmed and sharing my feelings with Rich. I stared whining about how I wanted a car - a nice car - any darn car - but I wanted to give up on this experiment.
So this morning while I was riding my bike (no dog walk, those poor beasts, they are so neglected) I decided to just stop, grab coffee and read a little of my book. For those of you that don't get up early, I encourage you to try it out. The weather is usually amazing and you can actually sit back and relax a little. It was heavenly.
While reading page 21 I was struck by a statement. Check it out:
What if a fragile world is more attracted to God's vision of interdependence and sacrificial sharing than to the mirage of independence and materialism?
Yes - yes - yes people. This is what I have been talking about, blogging about, reflecting on. When we sit down and realize we are here together, like it or not, we can then start making changes for the greater good. We can do for others before we do for ourselves (without neglecting ourselves of course). We can share our resources versus hoarding them away for a day that may never come. We can share our hearts, our homes, our lives. WHAT IF we put aside our desire for more and put forth our desire to serve?
It was like the switch of my inner most thoughts was flipped. What a refresher.
Not sure what else to say other than this. So have a nice day.
Yesterday Rich and I ate dinner on our patio. The weather was perfect. It was during our after dinner - relaxing time - that I told Rich how overwhelmed I have been feeling lately. It is like I woke up last week and said "how the heck did I get here?" When did I become an adult. One that has to take care of a household, hold down a full time job and be a step mother to GROWN kids? I am not sure if what is going on with me is just a stressful time or the fact that I turn 40 in 6 months and maybe the concept of a mid-life crisis isn't so crazy after all. Anyways, I was feeling overwhelmed and sharing my feelings with Rich. I stared whining about how I wanted a car - a nice car - any darn car - but I wanted to give up on this experiment.
So this morning while I was riding my bike (no dog walk, those poor beasts, they are so neglected) I decided to just stop, grab coffee and read a little of my book. For those of you that don't get up early, I encourage you to try it out. The weather is usually amazing and you can actually sit back and relax a little. It was heavenly.
While reading page 21 I was struck by a statement. Check it out:
What if a fragile world is more attracted to God's vision of interdependence and sacrificial sharing than to the mirage of independence and materialism?
Yes - yes - yes people. This is what I have been talking about, blogging about, reflecting on. When we sit down and realize we are here together, like it or not, we can then start making changes for the greater good. We can do for others before we do for ourselves (without neglecting ourselves of course). We can share our resources versus hoarding them away for a day that may never come. We can share our hearts, our homes, our lives. WHAT IF we put aside our desire for more and put forth our desire to serve?
It was like the switch of my inner most thoughts was flipped. What a refresher.
Not sure what else to say other than this. So have a nice day.
Tuesday, July 13, 2010
Living in the Present or Planning for the Future?
On my walk today I started thinking about some of my first posts back in the Spring. The lilacs were in full bloom and the air was crisp. I was truly happy and living in the moment - and telling ya'll all about how you should to.
Then Summer hit and I was taking in the smell of honeysuckles and fresh cut grass and living in the moment - and telling ya'll all about how you should to.
Today there were no lilacs in bloom or honeysuckle scented winds. But there was the beauty of the sun coming up early over the creek and the warmth of a morning that will soon turn into a 100 degree day. So I did what I do almost every moment of every day - I reflected.
I reflected on how many times I (or the news, a magazine or a friend) has mentioned how living in the moment is so important. How we must be grateful for this day because we aren't necessarily promised a tomorrow.
Then I remembered all the times I have helped clients plan for their future. Telling them to cast a vision today so that we will be set up for the future. About how planning helps us get to where we want to go and without it who knows where we will end up.
Wait a minute - does this make sense. Can we truly live in the moment while planning for the future? And if so, how do we do that? Do we devote 1 hour a day living in the present while devoting 23 hours focusing on the future? Do we split our time between the two? Isn't this called multi-tasking, and if so, isn't it discouraged in the world of productivity. Is "father time" in a tug of war contest with "father right now" for our devotion?
Maybe this is some sort of defense mechanism. Maybe we are future focused when the things right in front of us aren't so pleasant (like an unhappy marriage or recently diagnosed illness). Maybe we live in the moment when the future is kind of icky (like realizing that one day our parents will die, or that our children will leave the nest). Maybe having both situations helps keep the balance between not caring about anything at all and caring too much about everything.
I don't know - what do you think?
PS - hey - looking to increase my following. Would my current followers be willing to post this on their Facebook page or other social networking outlet with a kind request for your network to follow my blog? Sure would be appreciated. Thanks.
Then Summer hit and I was taking in the smell of honeysuckles and fresh cut grass and living in the moment - and telling ya'll all about how you should to.
Today there were no lilacs in bloom or honeysuckle scented winds. But there was the beauty of the sun coming up early over the creek and the warmth of a morning that will soon turn into a 100 degree day. So I did what I do almost every moment of every day - I reflected.
I reflected on how many times I (or the news, a magazine or a friend) has mentioned how living in the moment is so important. How we must be grateful for this day because we aren't necessarily promised a tomorrow.
Then I remembered all the times I have helped clients plan for their future. Telling them to cast a vision today so that we will be set up for the future. About how planning helps us get to where we want to go and without it who knows where we will end up.
Wait a minute - does this make sense. Can we truly live in the moment while planning for the future? And if so, how do we do that? Do we devote 1 hour a day living in the present while devoting 23 hours focusing on the future? Do we split our time between the two? Isn't this called multi-tasking, and if so, isn't it discouraged in the world of productivity. Is "father time" in a tug of war contest with "father right now" for our devotion?
Maybe this is some sort of defense mechanism. Maybe we are future focused when the things right in front of us aren't so pleasant (like an unhappy marriage or recently diagnosed illness). Maybe we live in the moment when the future is kind of icky (like realizing that one day our parents will die, or that our children will leave the nest). Maybe having both situations helps keep the balance between not caring about anything at all and caring too much about everything.
I don't know - what do you think?
PS - hey - looking to increase my following. Would my current followers be willing to post this on their Facebook page or other social networking outlet with a kind request for your network to follow my blog? Sure would be appreciated. Thanks.
Monday, July 12, 2010
Change your Behavior, Change your Life
I just finished the book Influencers. It was a great book that teaches you how to be an influencer in your life. How to make positive change occur. Now the book was one of those books that you don't just read through and put down. It was one that you read a chapter, take notes, go back to your notes and then reread - so I will not be doing it justice in today's post by any means.
What I do want to discuss today is a little nugget I took from it about behavior. The book states that if you want to change something (for example, your eating habits or work environment) first you have to make a behavior change. Behavior changes are those little things we do that can impact us in a big way. Here is an example - if you want to lose weight - a behavior change for you could be to immediately brush your teeth after a meal. This helps with snacking after you are already full. See - by adding the behavior to brush your teeth after you eat, you lower your risk of unnecessary calories therefore taking in less calories resulting in weight loss. I am not saying that is all it takes to lose weight, but it is a simple and effective behavior that will help.
I write about this today because as I was preparing to take my walk with the dogs this morning I had forgotten to bring a bag to pick up trash along the route the last several times I took the walk. It wasn't that I didn't care about helping make my neighborhood beautiful and trash free, it was that I just kept forgetting to bring a bag with me when I went. So today I used the nugget from the Influencer book and decided to make a behavior change. My behavior change was to keep a pile of bags for trash pickup next to the dogs leashes. Now, when I go to get their leashes I will now be reminded to grab a bag - therefore being able to pick up trash on the walk - resulting in less trash in the neighborhood. See how easy that is?
What is one behavior you could do to make a change for something you have in your heart to change? I would love to hear about it.
What I do want to discuss today is a little nugget I took from it about behavior. The book states that if you want to change something (for example, your eating habits or work environment) first you have to make a behavior change. Behavior changes are those little things we do that can impact us in a big way. Here is an example - if you want to lose weight - a behavior change for you could be to immediately brush your teeth after a meal. This helps with snacking after you are already full. See - by adding the behavior to brush your teeth after you eat, you lower your risk of unnecessary calories therefore taking in less calories resulting in weight loss. I am not saying that is all it takes to lose weight, but it is a simple and effective behavior that will help.
I write about this today because as I was preparing to take my walk with the dogs this morning I had forgotten to bring a bag to pick up trash along the route the last several times I took the walk. It wasn't that I didn't care about helping make my neighborhood beautiful and trash free, it was that I just kept forgetting to bring a bag with me when I went. So today I used the nugget from the Influencer book and decided to make a behavior change. My behavior change was to keep a pile of bags for trash pickup next to the dogs leashes. Now, when I go to get their leashes I will now be reminded to grab a bag - therefore being able to pick up trash on the walk - resulting in less trash in the neighborhood. See how easy that is?
What is one behavior you could do to make a change for something you have in your heart to change? I would love to hear about it.
Sunday, July 11, 2010
Know What's Worse Than Not Owning a Car??
Having no computer. Yes folks, today my computer crashed. First day back in Denver. No car, no computer. Here is what is the worst about all of this - I back up my computer monthly (read into this people - this is obviously not my first computer crash). So I have plans to wake up Sunday morning, take out my zip drive and save all my files, pictures, presentations, etc. to my zip so that I can feel protected.
NOT TO BE DONE. I turn on my computer and all I get is a blank screen and a very loud beeping noise. I try everything to figure it out, no luck. So I end up taking my church time to head to Best Buy to figure it out with the Geek Squad. Looks like the motherboard is fried.
I am so sad for so many reasons. First I have been in Florida (as I have mentioned a thousand times already) for 3 weeks which means I have missed 2 Sundays of church. I love my church and my friends there, so I was bummed to miss them (hi church friends - see you Thursday). Second, I work from home on my computer. All my emails and documents are on that computer. Also, I have 3 separate email accounts that all merge into one Outlook account which is now gone also. No worries though friends, for $150 I am getting it all that backed up in 3 - 4 days. Lucky me.
What's worse, I woke up at 6 this morning to get all organized after being gone for so long. I figured I could do all the things I need to do (take a walk with the dogs, ride my bike to Safeway and get breakfast so that Rich and I could eat together before I head off to church, do some yard work). Well, the dishwasher broke (or so I thought), the dogs were a total wreck on the walk, the hot water heater was off so I took a cold shower and I had to scarf down breakfast in order to get out of the door on time. Also, I had a wedding shower to go to after church for a friend getting married in 40 some days and I had to cut that short so I could go buy another computer.
So - here comes the honest to goodness truth I promised ya'll when writing this. I literally had an emotional brake down and cried to Rich on the phone in the Best Buy parking lot. I was crying so hard that I had a headache for about 3 hours later.
Geez, what does a girl need to do to have a wonderful, church filled, girls shower Sunday??????? If anyone knows, please share.
My hope and dream - each of you had a wonderful Sunday, filled with only good friends, good family and good times. Good night.
NOT TO BE DONE. I turn on my computer and all I get is a blank screen and a very loud beeping noise. I try everything to figure it out, no luck. So I end up taking my church time to head to Best Buy to figure it out with the Geek Squad. Looks like the motherboard is fried.
I am so sad for so many reasons. First I have been in Florida (as I have mentioned a thousand times already) for 3 weeks which means I have missed 2 Sundays of church. I love my church and my friends there, so I was bummed to miss them (hi church friends - see you Thursday). Second, I work from home on my computer. All my emails and documents are on that computer. Also, I have 3 separate email accounts that all merge into one Outlook account which is now gone also. No worries though friends, for $150 I am getting it all that backed up in 3 - 4 days. Lucky me.
What's worse, I woke up at 6 this morning to get all organized after being gone for so long. I figured I could do all the things I need to do (take a walk with the dogs, ride my bike to Safeway and get breakfast so that Rich and I could eat together before I head off to church, do some yard work). Well, the dishwasher broke (or so I thought), the dogs were a total wreck on the walk, the hot water heater was off so I took a cold shower and I had to scarf down breakfast in order to get out of the door on time. Also, I had a wedding shower to go to after church for a friend getting married in 40 some days and I had to cut that short so I could go buy another computer.
So - here comes the honest to goodness truth I promised ya'll when writing this. I literally had an emotional brake down and cried to Rich on the phone in the Best Buy parking lot. I was crying so hard that I had a headache for about 3 hours later.
Geez, what does a girl need to do to have a wonderful, church filled, girls shower Sunday??????? If anyone knows, please share.
My hope and dream - each of you had a wonderful Sunday, filled with only good friends, good family and good times. Good night.
Saturday, July 10, 2010
Heading back to Denver
Rich and I have been in Florida for about 3 weeks. I love Florida for all of the obvious reasons (pool in the back yard, walk to the beach, etc. etc. etc.) The other reason is that I have a full time car here. In Denver I don't. This stinks.
Here is the conversation Rich and I had yesterday over dinner.
Me - We head back to Denver tomorrow.
Rich - I know.
Me - I don't have a car in Denver.
Rich - I know.
Me - I want a Mercedes convertible.
Rich - No
Me - Why
Ric - Because you said you wanted to experience not owning a car for 4 months.
Me - I know. Darn it.
So, there you have it. Me trying to snake out of this whole thing for the pure pleasure of leather, Navigation and a hard top. So weak is the soul sometimes.
Thank God for Rich keeping me on track. I love that man.
Here is the conversation Rich and I had yesterday over dinner.
Me - We head back to Denver tomorrow.
Rich - I know.
Me - I don't have a car in Denver.
Rich - I know.
Me - I want a Mercedes convertible.
Rich - No
Me - Why
Ric - Because you said you wanted to experience not owning a car for 4 months.
Me - I know. Darn it.
So, there you have it. Me trying to snake out of this whole thing for the pure pleasure of leather, Navigation and a hard top. So weak is the soul sometimes.
Thank God for Rich keeping me on track. I love that man.
Thursday, July 8, 2010
Vanity Takes a Seat in the Back
I was saddened to hear of the loss of a college friend/sorority sister this week - Paige Pruett Butler. I haven't seen or spoken to Paige or her husband (our friend Jeff) for many years, but I remember them as wonderful friends who were always up for a good time.
As I was running today (I swear - that is NOT all I do, it just seems that way) I was somber as I thought of friends we have had in the past but lost. Lost in many ways - because we fell out of touch or because they have passed on to be with the Lord. My friend Liz from high school who was so distraught she took her own life (I was not in her life anymore either, so I have no idea why she was so distraught - shame on me). My friend Michelle who died while on vacation with me in Italy (I was only 1 mile ahead of her and didn't go back to see her before they took her by helicopter to the hospital where she was pronounced dead - shame on me).
My "uncle" John who died of a massive heart attack early this year. He was so kind to me, always stopping in to say hi to Rich and I when he was in Colorado. I wish I had told him how much he meant to me while he was here (shame on me).
My mothers best friend and good friend of mine Susan who lost her 10 year battle with cancer this year. I kept saying I was going to coordinate one more girls trip with all of us but never got around to it (shame on me).
Do you see a pattern? I do. I understand the cycle of life and that everyone has a time to live and a time to die. My head gets that, but I wish someone would tell my heart. I also believe that times like this make me reflect on the people still in my life and what I need to be doing for them. How I need to be there for them. So much more than I am doing right now. I think today I will make a list of people I want to reach out to. To thank, to ask if they need help, to just say hi and I love you.
Sure does make my luxury car vanity issues seem silly - DOESN'T IT???
As I was running today (I swear - that is NOT all I do, it just seems that way) I was somber as I thought of friends we have had in the past but lost. Lost in many ways - because we fell out of touch or because they have passed on to be with the Lord. My friend Liz from high school who was so distraught she took her own life (I was not in her life anymore either, so I have no idea why she was so distraught - shame on me). My friend Michelle who died while on vacation with me in Italy (I was only 1 mile ahead of her and didn't go back to see her before they took her by helicopter to the hospital where she was pronounced dead - shame on me).
My "uncle" John who died of a massive heart attack early this year. He was so kind to me, always stopping in to say hi to Rich and I when he was in Colorado. I wish I had told him how much he meant to me while he was here (shame on me).
My mothers best friend and good friend of mine Susan who lost her 10 year battle with cancer this year. I kept saying I was going to coordinate one more girls trip with all of us but never got around to it (shame on me).
Do you see a pattern? I do. I understand the cycle of life and that everyone has a time to live and a time to die. My head gets that, but I wish someone would tell my heart. I also believe that times like this make me reflect on the people still in my life and what I need to be doing for them. How I need to be there for them. So much more than I am doing right now. I think today I will make a list of people I want to reach out to. To thank, to ask if they need help, to just say hi and I love you.
Sure does make my luxury car vanity issues seem silly - DOESN'T IT???
Tuesday, July 6, 2010
Death of a Bird
Today Rich walked into the house from the pool and said he was sad. I didn't think I heard him correctly so I asked him to repeat himself. He said "I am sad today." I wasn't sure why - I mean I had yet to make him made today, so what was there to be sad about. "What's wrong honey" I asked him. He replied "I found one of the birds I like dead in our yard."
We have these ugly, penguin, flying looking birds that hang in our neighbors tree just above our pool. There are a few of them that hang out there and they are the weirdest looking birds I have ever seen. Picture a hairy slim penguin with a big awkward beak and you pretty much have a picture of that bird in your head.
We noticed them last year, nesting in the neighbors tree and Rich has been talking to them and pointing them out to all of our guests ever since. This morning one was dead in our yard and he had to dispose of the body. The good news is he didn't feel the need to hold a funeral for it, so at least the deed was done quickly and without fan fare. I have a huge to do list today and ATTEND UGLY BIRD FUNERAL is not on it. Though he is still sad, and I get it, those ugly things were growing on us.
Anytime something changes for people (death of a loved one, job change, a move to a different state) it can be hard for us. I think by nature we are creatures of habit (just like those birds nesting each year in the tree above our pool). Even people who like constant motion and variety still understand that there is comfort in consistency. That is why it is so hard for many of us to fully grasp when something changes and we had virtually no control over whether it happened or not.
I think the best we can do is pick ourselves up and learn to grow into the change. Look for opportunity in the new versus mourning the old. It is only then that we can truly live the life we have today. For yesterday is already gone and tomorrow is not promised. All we can do today is say bye bye birdie and hope that he had a great life while here. I know that is what I plan to say as I eulogize that bird this evening.
We have these ugly, penguin, flying looking birds that hang in our neighbors tree just above our pool. There are a few of them that hang out there and they are the weirdest looking birds I have ever seen. Picture a hairy slim penguin with a big awkward beak and you pretty much have a picture of that bird in your head.
We noticed them last year, nesting in the neighbors tree and Rich has been talking to them and pointing them out to all of our guests ever since. This morning one was dead in our yard and he had to dispose of the body. The good news is he didn't feel the need to hold a funeral for it, so at least the deed was done quickly and without fan fare. I have a huge to do list today and ATTEND UGLY BIRD FUNERAL is not on it. Though he is still sad, and I get it, those ugly things were growing on us.
Anytime something changes for people (death of a loved one, job change, a move to a different state) it can be hard for us. I think by nature we are creatures of habit (just like those birds nesting each year in the tree above our pool). Even people who like constant motion and variety still understand that there is comfort in consistency. That is why it is so hard for many of us to fully grasp when something changes and we had virtually no control over whether it happened or not.
I think the best we can do is pick ourselves up and learn to grow into the change. Look for opportunity in the new versus mourning the old. It is only then that we can truly live the life we have today. For yesterday is already gone and tomorrow is not promised. All we can do today is say bye bye birdie and hope that he had a great life while here. I know that is what I plan to say as I eulogize that bird this evening.
Monday, July 5, 2010
My Mission is Morphing
My mission is morphing. I started out analyzing vanity around driving a luxury car. I moved onto reflections on myself, my habits and my surroundings. It seems now I am examining my thoughts and feelings about being GREEN. I didn't realize that by limiting my driving I would become more aware of my carbon footprint. Everything I do, from not driving to recycling, makes a difference for our environment. I am starting to make a little life game out of being more responsible. Here are a few things I now do to help our environment:
1. I use the other side of printed paper. No one sees the stuff I print anyways, so who cares what is on the other side. Even more - I don't print unless I ABSOLUTELY have to.
2. I run, walk, bike and bus where ever I can.
3. I bring my tumbler to Starbucks.
4. I drink water from the tap versus using bottled water.
5. I use reusable grocery bags (and use the plastic I do have as trash bags and doggy potty bags)
These are only a few examples that I feel are really starting me on the path to being more green. What are you doing?
1. I use the other side of printed paper. No one sees the stuff I print anyways, so who cares what is on the other side. Even more - I don't print unless I ABSOLUTELY have to.
2. I run, walk, bike and bus where ever I can.
3. I bring my tumbler to Starbucks.
4. I drink water from the tap versus using bottled water.
5. I use reusable grocery bags (and use the plastic I do have as trash bags and doggy potty bags)
These are only a few examples that I feel are really starting me on the path to being more green. What are you doing?
Thursday, July 1, 2010
Sea Shells by the Seashore
This morning my niece Taylor and I got up early and spent some girl time finding sea shells together. It was a great time.
If you have ever looked for sea shells on the beach you know that it actually takes a lot of concentration. Especially when your 10 year old niece really wants to find a sand dollar. We found many pieces of sand dollars - but not a whole one - which was disappointing to her (don't worry folks, I took her to Starbucks afterwards and she got the iced lemon pound cake and she is all happy now. I am not, though, because I have still yet to receive endorsement money from Starbucks).
It got me thinking about how the waves come in and deposit some of the shells onto the beach while some of the sea shells gently roll back to where they came from, with no wear and tear to mention. The ones that stay on the beach get lumped into two categories. The ones that break and the ones that don't. The ones that break usually end up untouched, left to break even more until they are just part of the sand. The ones that remain intact end up being picked up by little girls and boys, bragged about to friends and displayed proudly on little bedroom shelves or in glass vases.
Kind of like us humans, aren't they. Some of us roll gently through life, barely untouched by the world. Living in a place that is comfortable and safe. Some of us are deposited onto unfamiliar shores, but our bodies or minds remain intact and we move on to different happy and fulfilled lives. Unfortunately, many of us are like the shells that are broken on the shore. Broken physically, mentally or emotionally. Living in a world that might not be comfortable and safe.
Sorry to sound a little down today. I am on vacation and not down at all - but I oftentimes feel so grateful for being safe and comfortable that I like to point out that others are not so that I can hopefully bring attention to the needs of this world. And as I have said many times before, if we know what the needs of others are we are more likely to be able to impact them positively.
What are the needs of those around you? Are you in need? Reach out, help someone or ask for help for yourself. There are many unbroken shells around just waiting to take you home.
If you have ever looked for sea shells on the beach you know that it actually takes a lot of concentration. Especially when your 10 year old niece really wants to find a sand dollar. We found many pieces of sand dollars - but not a whole one - which was disappointing to her (don't worry folks, I took her to Starbucks afterwards and she got the iced lemon pound cake and she is all happy now. I am not, though, because I have still yet to receive endorsement money from Starbucks).
It got me thinking about how the waves come in and deposit some of the shells onto the beach while some of the sea shells gently roll back to where they came from, with no wear and tear to mention. The ones that stay on the beach get lumped into two categories. The ones that break and the ones that don't. The ones that break usually end up untouched, left to break even more until they are just part of the sand. The ones that remain intact end up being picked up by little girls and boys, bragged about to friends and displayed proudly on little bedroom shelves or in glass vases.
Kind of like us humans, aren't they. Some of us roll gently through life, barely untouched by the world. Living in a place that is comfortable and safe. Some of us are deposited onto unfamiliar shores, but our bodies or minds remain intact and we move on to different happy and fulfilled lives. Unfortunately, many of us are like the shells that are broken on the shore. Broken physically, mentally or emotionally. Living in a world that might not be comfortable and safe.
Sorry to sound a little down today. I am on vacation and not down at all - but I oftentimes feel so grateful for being safe and comfortable that I like to point out that others are not so that I can hopefully bring attention to the needs of this world. And as I have said many times before, if we know what the needs of others are we are more likely to be able to impact them positively.
What are the needs of those around you? Are you in need? Reach out, help someone or ask for help for yourself. There are many unbroken shells around just waiting to take you home.
Monday, June 28, 2010
Humidity Stinks
Sorry I haven't posted in the last few days. I am in Florida and on vacation and have family down here - so you can imagine how busy I have been. The interesting thing is I haven't driven except two times since getting here last Monday. There isn't much driving I need to do while down here so I have been enjoying my "driving" time off. I also started a much needed work vacation last Friday. I don't get back into the coaching chair until Tuesday, July 6th. Yippee!!
Even if you love your job like I do - we all need to take a break from it. We often don't realize the everyday stresses work bring to us until we are lounging in the pool and smiling at how relaxed we are. My shoulders seem to be lower, my heart rate seems to be slower and my head seems more clear.
I take a week off of work every 3 months. It just seems to work well for me to have that mental and emotional break from coaching. As I said earlier - I LOVE my job and wouldn't want to do anything else - except maybe be a Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Model (like I said - I am on vacation which means I am obviously taking a break from reality).
If you aren't regularly taking a break - be it a week or a day - I encourage you to schedule one soon. There is no better way to give your best at work then by first giving your best to yourself.
Even if you love your job like I do - we all need to take a break from it. We often don't realize the everyday stresses work bring to us until we are lounging in the pool and smiling at how relaxed we are. My shoulders seem to be lower, my heart rate seems to be slower and my head seems more clear.
I take a week off of work every 3 months. It just seems to work well for me to have that mental and emotional break from coaching. As I said earlier - I LOVE my job and wouldn't want to do anything else - except maybe be a Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Model (like I said - I am on vacation which means I am obviously taking a break from reality).
If you aren't regularly taking a break - be it a week or a day - I encourage you to schedule one soon. There is no better way to give your best at work then by first giving your best to yourself.
Friday, June 25, 2010
Bumper Stickers
Each day, whether I am walking, biking, riding the bus or driving, I see all kinds of bumper stickers on cars. Some showing the drivers interest in sports - I HEART SOCCER. Some showing pride as parents - MY SON IS ON THE HONOR ROLL AT SOUTH MIDDLE SCHOOL. Some showing their political interests - OBAMA IN 2010. Some showing where we live or vacation - MARTHA'S VINEYARD.
Today I was thinking about what I would write on a bumper sticker if I could create my own. What would I want to share with the world on my bumper (of course, I don't have a bumper anymore, so maybe I should just create a tshirt). What am I passionate about that is important enough for me to put it out there - for all to see?
It would probably be something like this - WE CAN ALL IMPACT THE WORLD - IF WE WANT TO!
To me it means that we all the innate responsibility to help those who need help - whether they are homeless, hungry or hurting. It is just sometimes we dont' do it for whatever reason. The thing is - all we have to do is make the choice to do something. To take action. To want to help. That is it!!!!
What would your bumper sticker say? I would love for you to post them here for all to see. Let this forum be your open road to express what you feel or who you are.
Today I was thinking about what I would write on a bumper sticker if I could create my own. What would I want to share with the world on my bumper (of course, I don't have a bumper anymore, so maybe I should just create a tshirt). What am I passionate about that is important enough for me to put it out there - for all to see?
It would probably be something like this - WE CAN ALL IMPACT THE WORLD - IF WE WANT TO!
To me it means that we all the innate responsibility to help those who need help - whether they are homeless, hungry or hurting. It is just sometimes we dont' do it for whatever reason. The thing is - all we have to do is make the choice to do something. To take action. To want to help. That is it!!!!
What would your bumper sticker say? I would love for you to post them here for all to see. Let this forum be your open road to express what you feel or who you are.
Thursday, June 24, 2010
The Toyota Prius
OK, so this blog is about cars - or so I thought it would be when I started. Now it has morphed into a way for me to share my thoughts, short comings, victories, and life with all of you. Thanks for the flexibility.
I was getting ready to go out for my run today when I saw a Toyota Prius commercial. At the end of the commercial the announcer says "Are you ready for a car that all others will want to be compared to?" It got me thinking - are you ready to be the kind of person that others want to be compared to? That is a pretty big statement. I started thinking, while running, what that even means. Is it a positive thing to be compared to or a negative thing? Does it mean I am modelling good behavior or that I am showcasing bad behavior.
It brings me back to a time when I was in high school. I have a very vague memory of being in the girls bathroom as a senior and having a Junior walk in while I was washing my hands. She stopped, looked a little scared, and then said "I know that you don't like me Kristen, but I wanted to say I like what you are wearing today." I was so shocked I didn't even respond. Was that what I was modelling in high school? Was I the mean girl? Possibly and unfortunately.
I guess that is what this whole experiment I am doing is all about anyways - looking back at things I did wrong and looking ahead for things I can do right. I want to be the person that people want to be compared to. Not because I am an egomaniac, but because it means that I have grown, that I have learned and that I am now loving those in my world.
Here is what I want to ask each of you to do today. Go buy a cheesy magazine (you know the ones - US, STAR, etc. - or go online) Read through it and ask yourself who in that magazine represents class and style and who represents the opposite. Now, ask yourself this question - "which style do I look more like?" You might find yourself just as shocked as I found myself in that high school bathroom. If you are - change. Make a difference and do something good. I did and I feel better for it.
I was getting ready to go out for my run today when I saw a Toyota Prius commercial. At the end of the commercial the announcer says "Are you ready for a car that all others will want to be compared to?" It got me thinking - are you ready to be the kind of person that others want to be compared to? That is a pretty big statement. I started thinking, while running, what that even means. Is it a positive thing to be compared to or a negative thing? Does it mean I am modelling good behavior or that I am showcasing bad behavior.
It brings me back to a time when I was in high school. I have a very vague memory of being in the girls bathroom as a senior and having a Junior walk in while I was washing my hands. She stopped, looked a little scared, and then said "I know that you don't like me Kristen, but I wanted to say I like what you are wearing today." I was so shocked I didn't even respond. Was that what I was modelling in high school? Was I the mean girl? Possibly and unfortunately.
I guess that is what this whole experiment I am doing is all about anyways - looking back at things I did wrong and looking ahead for things I can do right. I want to be the person that people want to be compared to. Not because I am an egomaniac, but because it means that I have grown, that I have learned and that I am now loving those in my world.
Here is what I want to ask each of you to do today. Go buy a cheesy magazine (you know the ones - US, STAR, etc. - or go online) Read through it and ask yourself who in that magazine represents class and style and who represents the opposite. Now, ask yourself this question - "which style do I look more like?" You might find yourself just as shocked as I found myself in that high school bathroom. If you are - change. Make a difference and do something good. I did and I feel better for it.
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Do I Want to be Right or Happy
A counselor once asked me in a session if I wanted to be right or if I wanted to be happy. "What's the difference" I jokingly asked her.
"Actually", she said, "A lot.". First, our quest to be right is often more important to us than our quest for happiness. Many of us have so many different views and opinions on issues that all we care about is proving that our stand on a certain issue is the correct stand. Think hot topics like abortion, the death penalty or religion. Many times we don't consider that if we allow others the same respect to voice their opinions and views - we'll be happier for it.
While I have serious views on the above issues, I oftentimes don't allow others to state what they feel about them and why. I tend to over control the conversation and shut down people who disagree with my opinion. I guess I have always felt that if you don't stand on the same side as me then we don't have anything in common. This puts a wall up between people, therefore making us less sociable with others - henceforth - more unhappy.
I am beginning to believe - wait for it - that I am wrong. Not on my views or stance on important issues - but wrong on how I allow others to share with me their views or stances.
This came to my attention while taking time away from driving everywhere (I told you I was doing some deep thinking during my biking and walking). Today while walking to Starbucks (heads up people, still no endorsement money from them - darn it - LOL) I just started thinking about how I used to feel "environmentalistic tree huggers" were a little bit crazy. So stressed about the environment, global warming, etc. I would barely hear when someone would be trying to prove to me that I had to start this or give up that in order to help our environment (please don't kill me - I am just trying to be honest). Well, yesterday on the beach at sunset a family of 4 were releasing balloons into the sky (quite possibly as a memorial to someone they just lost - at least that was my thought). I respected that they may be mourning, but to be honest I was more upset to think that those balloons would soon lose helium and probably end up in the ocean somewhere. That brought me to think of how we can't really afford to have more crap in the ocean, that with oil spewing daily and all the trash that is already there.
I STOPPED right there on the beach and thought - wow - how did I become this person who cares about our world more than I ever have before. First, it has to be that biking and walking has forced me to see our world more "closer up" if that is a term. Second, I am learning to allow myself the concept that other people may be right as well - and that my friends - MAKES ME HAPPY. Tell my counselor I am cured!!
"Actually", she said, "A lot.". First, our quest to be right is often more important to us than our quest for happiness. Many of us have so many different views and opinions on issues that all we care about is proving that our stand on a certain issue is the correct stand. Think hot topics like abortion, the death penalty or religion. Many times we don't consider that if we allow others the same respect to voice their opinions and views - we'll be happier for it.
While I have serious views on the above issues, I oftentimes don't allow others to state what they feel about them and why. I tend to over control the conversation and shut down people who disagree with my opinion. I guess I have always felt that if you don't stand on the same side as me then we don't have anything in common. This puts a wall up between people, therefore making us less sociable with others - henceforth - more unhappy.
I am beginning to believe - wait for it - that I am wrong. Not on my views or stance on important issues - but wrong on how I allow others to share with me their views or stances.
This came to my attention while taking time away from driving everywhere (I told you I was doing some deep thinking during my biking and walking). Today while walking to Starbucks (heads up people, still no endorsement money from them - darn it - LOL) I just started thinking about how I used to feel "environmentalistic tree huggers" were a little bit crazy. So stressed about the environment, global warming, etc. I would barely hear when someone would be trying to prove to me that I had to start this or give up that in order to help our environment (please don't kill me - I am just trying to be honest). Well, yesterday on the beach at sunset a family of 4 were releasing balloons into the sky (quite possibly as a memorial to someone they just lost - at least that was my thought). I respected that they may be mourning, but to be honest I was more upset to think that those balloons would soon lose helium and probably end up in the ocean somewhere. That brought me to think of how we can't really afford to have more crap in the ocean, that with oil spewing daily and all the trash that is already there.
I STOPPED right there on the beach and thought - wow - how did I become this person who cares about our world more than I ever have before. First, it has to be that biking and walking has forced me to see our world more "closer up" if that is a term. Second, I am learning to allow myself the concept that other people may be right as well - and that my friends - MAKES ME HAPPY. Tell my counselor I am cured!!
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
Ahh - Florida
Rich and I got to our Florida house last night. Other than the fact that the heat is actually offensive - it is so good to be home.
I love that I have a car here, but will only use it about 1 time a week. We walk or bike pretty much every where we go while we are here (except the grocery store - the closest one is 4 miles away and you can't bike with 25 bags of groceries and a bottle of wine).
We bought a car for this house last year - a KIA SOUL. It is Alien Green and truly a fun car. Rich says it is like owning a golf cart with doors. That is such a true statement. But, the car is cute and functional and has air - pretty much all we need in Florida.
I have to work Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday of this week and then I am off for vacation until the 5th of July. Yeah, vacation, FL and a car - life it good.
I love that I have a car here, but will only use it about 1 time a week. We walk or bike pretty much every where we go while we are here (except the grocery store - the closest one is 4 miles away and you can't bike with 25 bags of groceries and a bottle of wine).
We bought a car for this house last year - a KIA SOUL. It is Alien Green and truly a fun car. Rich says it is like owning a golf cart with doors. That is such a true statement. But, the car is cute and functional and has air - pretty much all we need in Florida.
I have to work Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday of this week and then I am off for vacation until the 5th of July. Yeah, vacation, FL and a car - life it good.
Saturday, June 19, 2010
Can you bike off back fat
It has come to my attention that the older I get the more back fat I get. I am not sure what that is all about (but do suspect my love of beer as the culprit)- and I am not too happy about it - but it is a reality now.
This has been my source of vanity today. Yesterday I was concerned about my big toe nail - I broke it and it looks horrible.
Yes people - you read that right - I am a truly crazy person with truly crazy issues.
I am finding that as I age things are starting to fall "downward" and "out". For example, my back fat. It seems to not want to cooperate and stay in my jeans. It is almost like it is claustrophobic and needs to poke out of the top of my jeans for fear of being trapped in there for ever. I am wondering if I can get my back fat into some counseling - so that it will stay tucked away into my jeans and not feel the need to make an appearance each time I go out. Is there such a thing.
Just another day in the life of a woman without a car. What will I worry about next?
This has been my source of vanity today. Yesterday I was concerned about my big toe nail - I broke it and it looks horrible.
Yes people - you read that right - I am a truly crazy person with truly crazy issues.
I am finding that as I age things are starting to fall "downward" and "out". For example, my back fat. It seems to not want to cooperate and stay in my jeans. It is almost like it is claustrophobic and needs to poke out of the top of my jeans for fear of being trapped in there for ever. I am wondering if I can get my back fat into some counseling - so that it will stay tucked away into my jeans and not feel the need to make an appearance each time I go out. Is there such a thing.
Just another day in the life of a woman without a car. What will I worry about next?
Thursday, June 17, 2010
Vanity Smacks Me In The Face
I rode my bike to my women's group meeting today - which, as everyone knows - gives me lots of time to think.
What I'm discovering is - if you take away a material thing that you think was the root of your vanity, you get smacked in the face with a harsh reality - it wasn't. Because as soon as that is removed, something else steps up. It has just been waiting in the wings for you to get rid of the first thing so that it can shine in the vanity spotlight. Kind of like the Vice President. (Come on, you don't think each VP just wants to be #2 forever - they are just waiting for that President to kick the bucket so they can be #1).
I don't even have to name the next big "it" - it's different everyday. Yesterday it was my abdominal muscles (no freaking lie people). The day before it was my clothes. Who knows what is waiting in line for tomorrow. I am starting to feel like a shallow piece of meat.
So it brings me to the unfortunate conclusion that my car didn't' make me vain. I am vain - therefore I had to have that car.
Darn it!!!!
I was SOOO hoping that wasn't going to be the case.
Now what?
Do I have to give up all my material possessions and join the Peace Corps like my friend just did (props to her by the way - she ROCKS - and doesn't have a vain bone in her body - she is actually doing it because she wants to help people - geez).
I am sincerely perplexed with what to do with my new found discovery.
Anyone else out there ever deal with vanity? I would love to hear how you are personally beating it out of your system?
What I'm discovering is - if you take away a material thing that you think was the root of your vanity, you get smacked in the face with a harsh reality - it wasn't. Because as soon as that is removed, something else steps up. It has just been waiting in the wings for you to get rid of the first thing so that it can shine in the vanity spotlight. Kind of like the Vice President. (Come on, you don't think each VP just wants to be #2 forever - they are just waiting for that President to kick the bucket so they can be #1).
I don't even have to name the next big "it" - it's different everyday. Yesterday it was my abdominal muscles (no freaking lie people). The day before it was my clothes. Who knows what is waiting in line for tomorrow. I am starting to feel like a shallow piece of meat.
So it brings me to the unfortunate conclusion that my car didn't' make me vain. I am vain - therefore I had to have that car.
Darn it!!!!
I was SOOO hoping that wasn't going to be the case.
Now what?
Do I have to give up all my material possessions and join the Peace Corps like my friend just did (props to her by the way - she ROCKS - and doesn't have a vain bone in her body - she is actually doing it because she wants to help people - geez).
I am sincerely perplexed with what to do with my new found discovery.
Anyone else out there ever deal with vanity? I would love to hear how you are personally beating it out of your system?
Wednesday, June 16, 2010
The Truth Shall Set us Free
So I am on my daily dog walk (yes, with poop in hand) and I walk by a huge honeysuckle bush. I love honeysuckles. Growing up in the South my summers were filled with the fragrant scent of honeysuckle in the wind. My best friend Ali and I would swim all day and then pick honeysuckles and eat them while laying in the grass on the hill outside of my house in the evenings while lightning bugs would announce their presence in the dark. Those were wonderful memories. How I wish I was back there - just for a moment - to remember how carefree life was.
I promised I would be transparent with ya'll, so I want to delve into another memory that came up during my honeysuckle recollection.
It was about that same time that I tried out for cheer leading. I believe I was in the 7th grade and our middle school was holding tryouts. So I tried out - and made it. Now - you should know there was nothing particularly special about me during that time - every girl made it. But either way - I was in. Because we weren't old enough to drive, our parents had to take turns driving us to and from practice and games. It was my dad's turn to pick up my friend Krista and me from the game. Krista was a pretty blond - lived in a huge house - and must of (to my 7th grade perception) had a lot of money. You can imagine my embarrassment, then, when my father drove up in his big green - beat up - construction truck.
I thought I was going to die. Looking back now I realize it was my first memory of vanity around cars. I immediately excused the truck to my friend Krista and we got in.
BIG MISTAKE. Now, my dad died just 3 years later, so most or all of you have never met him, but he was a force. A retired New York State Trooper who was 6'2" and about 200 lbs. of muscle (for those of you connecting the dots, yes his physique resembles that of my husbands - thank God for counseling - ha ha). Anyways, we dropped Krista off and then I got the beat down. My father told me to NEVER apologize for the type of car that you drive and to never feel embarrassed by him or make him feel that way again. He went on to say he was a business man who owned his own company, his own house and his own car and that I was ridiculous to feel the way I did.
OUCH. That hurt. I was the baby in our family and pretty much NEVER got in trouble. I was also extremely spoiled in the eyes of my sister and brother, so dad yelling at me was not common. I felt very bad about what I had done and apologized.
But do you know what - that is where it all started and it has taken this long (26 years later) for me to realize that I need to not put vanity in front of humility. Wow, what a lesson. I only wish dad had lived long enough to give me more lessons. Who knows where I would have ended up.
Peace out.
I promised I would be transparent with ya'll, so I want to delve into another memory that came up during my honeysuckle recollection.
It was about that same time that I tried out for cheer leading. I believe I was in the 7th grade and our middle school was holding tryouts. So I tried out - and made it. Now - you should know there was nothing particularly special about me during that time - every girl made it. But either way - I was in. Because we weren't old enough to drive, our parents had to take turns driving us to and from practice and games. It was my dad's turn to pick up my friend Krista and me from the game. Krista was a pretty blond - lived in a huge house - and must of (to my 7th grade perception) had a lot of money. You can imagine my embarrassment, then, when my father drove up in his big green - beat up - construction truck.
I thought I was going to die. Looking back now I realize it was my first memory of vanity around cars. I immediately excused the truck to my friend Krista and we got in.
BIG MISTAKE. Now, my dad died just 3 years later, so most or all of you have never met him, but he was a force. A retired New York State Trooper who was 6'2" and about 200 lbs. of muscle (for those of you connecting the dots, yes his physique resembles that of my husbands - thank God for counseling - ha ha). Anyways, we dropped Krista off and then I got the beat down. My father told me to NEVER apologize for the type of car that you drive and to never feel embarrassed by him or make him feel that way again. He went on to say he was a business man who owned his own company, his own house and his own car and that I was ridiculous to feel the way I did.
OUCH. That hurt. I was the baby in our family and pretty much NEVER got in trouble. I was also extremely spoiled in the eyes of my sister and brother, so dad yelling at me was not common. I felt very bad about what I had done and apologized.
But do you know what - that is where it all started and it has taken this long (26 years later) for me to realize that I need to not put vanity in front of humility. Wow, what a lesson. I only wish dad had lived long enough to give me more lessons. Who knows where I would have ended up.
Peace out.
Tuesday, June 15, 2010
Today is Laundry Day
I am in no need of a car today, at all. This is good, considering that Rich took ours to Colorado Springs today, so I don't have one anyways.
So I figured I would start my day with a walk with the dogs. Then I rode my bike to get coffee with Adrienne and then headed home to start on that pile of laundry, because it isn't going anywhere by itself, it asked me to, and I know that Rich isn't going to do it (sorry to throw you under the bus honey).
It is funny, when you have time to think, what you actually uncover.
I work at home, and I exercise a lot, so when I was sorting through the laundry today I realized that pretty much ALL of my dirty clothes were sweats, t-shirts and socks. Pretty funny, considering I actually have a full time job and do go out quite a bit. Where are all of my nice clothes? Do I really wear sweats that much? When was the last time I showered. Wait - oh my gosh - when was the last time I shaved my legs (again, feeling the need to apologize to my hubby).
These are all disturbing revelations. I have got to get myself a car before I turn into a scuz. Or - here is another thought - I could just go shave my legs.
Choices, choices, choices.
So I figured I would start my day with a walk with the dogs. Then I rode my bike to get coffee with Adrienne and then headed home to start on that pile of laundry, because it isn't going anywhere by itself, it asked me to, and I know that Rich isn't going to do it (sorry to throw you under the bus honey).
It is funny, when you have time to think, what you actually uncover.
I work at home, and I exercise a lot, so when I was sorting through the laundry today I realized that pretty much ALL of my dirty clothes were sweats, t-shirts and socks. Pretty funny, considering I actually have a full time job and do go out quite a bit. Where are all of my nice clothes? Do I really wear sweats that much? When was the last time I showered. Wait - oh my gosh - when was the last time I shaved my legs (again, feeling the need to apologize to my hubby).
These are all disturbing revelations. I have got to get myself a car before I turn into a scuz. Or - here is another thought - I could just go shave my legs.
Choices, choices, choices.
Monday, June 14, 2010
It's All About the Health
Yesterday at church, Susie had an amazing message - take care of your physical, spiritual and mental health. She went into greater detail of course (and you can listen to it yourself at www.pathwayswashpark.org) but what she said really resonated with me and this experience I am going through.
Let's examine.
She mentions the importance of physical health. How we can't be our best without taking care of our bodies. This includes (but is not limited to) exercise, rest and relaxation. I started thinking about how my experiment is really helping me in this respect. Sure, I work out everyday, but then I rely on my car to get me to where I am going after that. Now I am biking and walking a lot more and I feel great. Also, because I am doing more exercise I am sleeping better than ever. So far - one for the win column.
Next was spiritual health. This is a win anyway you count it, as I am experimenting with breaking the chains of material goods. I feel great about my progress and where my heart is around this. I also have discovered the library, so I am saving money on books (which I read like 3 a month) and loving not needing to buy every book I want to read. I am pretty sure, however, that the car and book industry hates me. If I go missing one day - please check with Barnes & Noble. I feel they would be the prime suspect in my disappearance.
Last, she spoke of emotional health. Again, a win. I feel wonderful. I am using my walking and biking time to realize the beauty of my world. I am less stressed because I am not behind a slow driver, getting cut off by a crazy driver or stopping at every red light. I laugh more also (this is what Susie says is MANDATORY). Get this, on my walk with the dogs today I got to pick up poop twice. Then I made a song about carrying poop on my walk - and yes - sang it the entire way. Crazy - maybe. Funny - Absolutely.
I ask each of you to analyze where you are with these 3 health accounts as well.
Enjoy your day.
Let's examine.
She mentions the importance of physical health. How we can't be our best without taking care of our bodies. This includes (but is not limited to) exercise, rest and relaxation. I started thinking about how my experiment is really helping me in this respect. Sure, I work out everyday, but then I rely on my car to get me to where I am going after that. Now I am biking and walking a lot more and I feel great. Also, because I am doing more exercise I am sleeping better than ever. So far - one for the win column.
Next was spiritual health. This is a win anyway you count it, as I am experimenting with breaking the chains of material goods. I feel great about my progress and where my heart is around this. I also have discovered the library, so I am saving money on books (which I read like 3 a month) and loving not needing to buy every book I want to read. I am pretty sure, however, that the car and book industry hates me. If I go missing one day - please check with Barnes & Noble. I feel they would be the prime suspect in my disappearance.
Last, she spoke of emotional health. Again, a win. I feel wonderful. I am using my walking and biking time to realize the beauty of my world. I am less stressed because I am not behind a slow driver, getting cut off by a crazy driver or stopping at every red light. I laugh more also (this is what Susie says is MANDATORY). Get this, on my walk with the dogs today I got to pick up poop twice. Then I made a song about carrying poop on my walk - and yes - sang it the entire way. Crazy - maybe. Funny - Absolutely.
I ask each of you to analyze where you are with these 3 health accounts as well.
Enjoy your day.
Sunday, June 13, 2010
Today I Am Annoyed
It is still raining. I am heading to church and have to take Rich's car. This is actually starting to get annoying. Today I am annoyed, there I said it.
How do people live without a car. I have only "not" had one for 4 days and already I am bothered. I mean, yes, I have a car - my husbands - but seriously - this is starting to bother me. I didn't realize the freedom a car gives you. The pureness of just being able to - at any time - get in and go. Gosh - I miss that.
I think it has to be the fact that it is raining AGAIN in Colorado and I haven't seen the sun since Friday (and only for a brief moment). Maybe that is why I want to shoot myself.
So I think, just go buy a darn car, but that would be the easy way out and I don't believe I have learned or grown from this experiment enough yet. There are still 3 months and 3 weeks before I do that.
So today I look for the message at my church (Pathways at Wash Park for anyone in my area looking for a great church) to provide the much needed peace and comfort I am needing.
I hope everyone out there is in a much better mood than I am. Enjoy your Sunday.
How do people live without a car. I have only "not" had one for 4 days and already I am bothered. I mean, yes, I have a car - my husbands - but seriously - this is starting to bother me. I didn't realize the freedom a car gives you. The pureness of just being able to - at any time - get in and go. Gosh - I miss that.
I think it has to be the fact that it is raining AGAIN in Colorado and I haven't seen the sun since Friday (and only for a brief moment). Maybe that is why I want to shoot myself.
So I think, just go buy a darn car, but that would be the easy way out and I don't believe I have learned or grown from this experiment enough yet. There are still 3 months and 3 weeks before I do that.
So today I look for the message at my church (Pathways at Wash Park for anyone in my area looking for a great church) to provide the much needed peace and comfort I am needing.
I hope everyone out there is in a much better mood than I am. Enjoy your Sunday.
Friday, June 11, 2010
What do you do in a Tornado
Day 2 without a car has gone something like this:
I rode my bike to Wash Park to run, then rode my bike to meet my girlfriends for coffee, then rode my bike to run an errand, then rode my bike home. Seems ok so far, right?
Now, it is raining, the tornado siren is going off, and there are storms all over Denver. No way I am walking or riding anywhere. Also, the bus stop is over a 10 minute walk.
So, when it comes to meeting friends for a good old fashioned Wisconsin fish fry at Spanky's tonight - I believe I will need a car. Thank God Rich isn't crazy like me and giving up his car.
Have a great Friday night ya'll.
I rode my bike to Wash Park to run, then rode my bike to meet my girlfriends for coffee, then rode my bike to run an errand, then rode my bike home. Seems ok so far, right?
Now, it is raining, the tornado siren is going off, and there are storms all over Denver. No way I am walking or riding anywhere. Also, the bus stop is over a 10 minute walk.
So, when it comes to meeting friends for a good old fashioned Wisconsin fish fry at Spanky's tonight - I believe I will need a car. Thank God Rich isn't crazy like me and giving up his car.
Have a great Friday night ya'll.
Thursday, June 10, 2010
My First Day without a Car
Today has been tough.
First, I had a coaching session from 9 - 9:30. Then I had to be a bible study from 9:45 - 11:30 about 4 miles away but then had to head to a networking luncheon at 11:30 (dressed professionally of course) another 5 miles away. This means I had to drive, and since my car went home yesterday, it means I had to take Rich's.
Rich drives that car that is too big for the road. I call it the Living Room - mainly because it is as big as one and has a tv in it. I can't navigate with this car. Let me share. I wanted to get a Starbucks on the way to bible study, but could not park this big car in the few spaces left in their parking lot, so no Starbucks (for the record, I am beginning to think Starbucks should be paying me for how many times I mention them, must make contact). Then I found a cute coffee place I could park at, but I can't parallel park it because, again, too big, so I had to park quite a ways away and walk. Next up, my luncheon. First I ran over a few curbs trying to park at the Denver Country Club. Then I turned on the windshield wipers trying to find the turn signal. I then proceeded to almost run over a dog when I was trying to access the map. Lucky no one died today. If you see me in a big black living room - my suggestion - get out of my way.
I am hopeless. I miss my sedan, my sleek - easy to drive - know where everything is sedan.
Will I ever be happy again?
First, I had a coaching session from 9 - 9:30. Then I had to be a bible study from 9:45 - 11:30 about 4 miles away but then had to head to a networking luncheon at 11:30 (dressed professionally of course) another 5 miles away. This means I had to drive, and since my car went home yesterday, it means I had to take Rich's.
Rich drives that car that is too big for the road. I call it the Living Room - mainly because it is as big as one and has a tv in it. I can't navigate with this car. Let me share. I wanted to get a Starbucks on the way to bible study, but could not park this big car in the few spaces left in their parking lot, so no Starbucks (for the record, I am beginning to think Starbucks should be paying me for how many times I mention them, must make contact). Then I found a cute coffee place I could park at, but I can't parallel park it because, again, too big, so I had to park quite a ways away and walk. Next up, my luncheon. First I ran over a few curbs trying to park at the Denver Country Club. Then I turned on the windshield wipers trying to find the turn signal. I then proceeded to almost run over a dog when I was trying to access the map. Lucky no one died today. If you see me in a big black living room - my suggestion - get out of my way.
I am hopeless. I miss my sedan, my sleek - easy to drive - know where everything is sedan.
Will I ever be happy again?
Wednesday, June 9, 2010
R.I.P.
Today my car went home to meet its maker. Not God, the Mercedes Benz dealer.
OK, let me be transparent. I cried. Seriously!! There was 10 minutes in Rich's car that I actually could not talk. He kept looking over at me, asking me simple questions I could answer with a grunt (no) and a head nod (yes). Every other minute he would reach out and stroke my hand. It was both ridiculous and sweet.
It's gone and I actually feel quite empty. As I was throwing away my recyclables tonight (which I keep in the garage) I was struck by how empty it is. What will I do with all that space?
Rich came home with a shiny brochure for a new Mercedes. "Look honey," he says hopefully "you can get this car." My feelings, my crying, my depression tonight only reiterates the fact that I need to live for awhile without one. I am not happy, but I am hopeful.
I am happy, at least, with thoughts that somebody, someday soon, will get to own my car. They will feel that euphoric "new car" feeling. They will be proud as they come out of the grocery store, hit the unlock button and hear the angels sing the sound of their car being unlocked. They will proudly hand wash it for the first several months (before giving into the corner car wash, where they do it faster, cheaper and better than they ever can). They will love it, and I will be glad for them, because they deserve to own this magnificent car.
OK, let me be transparent. I cried. Seriously!! There was 10 minutes in Rich's car that I actually could not talk. He kept looking over at me, asking me simple questions I could answer with a grunt (no) and a head nod (yes). Every other minute he would reach out and stroke my hand. It was both ridiculous and sweet.
It's gone and I actually feel quite empty. As I was throwing away my recyclables tonight (which I keep in the garage) I was struck by how empty it is. What will I do with all that space?
Rich came home with a shiny brochure for a new Mercedes. "Look honey," he says hopefully "you can get this car." My feelings, my crying, my depression tonight only reiterates the fact that I need to live for awhile without one. I am not happy, but I am hopeful.
I am happy, at least, with thoughts that somebody, someday soon, will get to own my car. They will feel that euphoric "new car" feeling. They will be proud as they come out of the grocery store, hit the unlock button and hear the angels sing the sound of their car being unlocked. They will proudly hand wash it for the first several months (before giving into the corner car wash, where they do it faster, cheaper and better than they ever can). They will love it, and I will be glad for them, because they deserve to own this magnificent car.
Tuesday, June 8, 2010
No More Turning Away
Here is the thing about this experiment. I am becoming more aware. More aware of my choices, more aware of my surroundings, more aware of my world. I should warn you, this message is deep. You have been warned.
I was listening to Pink Floyd's song ON THE TURNING AWAY this morning. It was weird how the lyrics really seemed to be speaking to the heart of what I have been feeling lately. Let's look at them (also if you cut and paste the link below you can hear the song as well)
http://www.lyrics.com/on-the-turning-away-lyrics-pink-floyd.html
On the turning away
From the pale and downtrodden
and the words they say
which we won't understand
don't accept that what's happening
is just a case of others' suffering
or you'll find that you're joining in
the turning away
it's a sin that somehow
light is changing to shadow
and casting it's shroud
over all we have known
unaware of how the ranks have grown
driven on by a heart of stone
we could find that we're all alone
in the dream of the proud
on the wings of the night
as the daytime is stirring
where the speechless unite
in a silent accord
using words you will find are strange
and mesmerized as they light the flame
feel the new wind of change
on the wings of the night
No more turning away
From the weak and the weary
No more turning away
From the coldness inside
Just a world that we all must share
It's not enough to just stand and stare
Is it only a dream that they'll be
no more turning away
WOW! Those lyrics really hit home to me on so many levels. First, why does it take a "limited car" experience to open my eyes to stuff around me. Stuff like littering, homelessness, sadness. Stuff like taking action to make positive change. Now, I am not saying I was blind to this before. I am also not saying I have never taken action before, it just seems that now, as I experiment with different ways to get around I am enlightened to our world.
JUST A WORLD THAT WE ALL MUST SHARE. That verse says it all. I need to dig in deep and make a head to heart connection and ask myself if I am doing enough as an inhabitant of this world I am part of. Are you you?
I was listening to Pink Floyd's song ON THE TURNING AWAY this morning. It was weird how the lyrics really seemed to be speaking to the heart of what I have been feeling lately. Let's look at them (also if you cut and paste the link below you can hear the song as well)
http://www.lyrics.com/on-the-turning-away-lyrics-pink-floyd.html
On the turning away
From the pale and downtrodden
and the words they say
which we won't understand
don't accept that what's happening
is just a case of others' suffering
or you'll find that you're joining in
the turning away
it's a sin that somehow
light is changing to shadow
and casting it's shroud
over all we have known
unaware of how the ranks have grown
driven on by a heart of stone
we could find that we're all alone
in the dream of the proud
on the wings of the night
as the daytime is stirring
where the speechless unite
in a silent accord
using words you will find are strange
and mesmerized as they light the flame
feel the new wind of change
on the wings of the night
No more turning away
From the weak and the weary
No more turning away
From the coldness inside
Just a world that we all must share
It's not enough to just stand and stare
Is it only a dream that they'll be
no more turning away
WOW! Those lyrics really hit home to me on so many levels. First, why does it take a "limited car" experience to open my eyes to stuff around me. Stuff like littering, homelessness, sadness. Stuff like taking action to make positive change. Now, I am not saying I was blind to this before. I am also not saying I have never taken action before, it just seems that now, as I experiment with different ways to get around I am enlightened to our world.
JUST A WORLD THAT WE ALL MUST SHARE. That verse says it all. I need to dig in deep and make a head to heart connection and ask myself if I am doing enough as an inhabitant of this world I am part of. Are you you?
Monday, June 7, 2010
Getting it out of the way
I am training to compete in the Hood to Coast Relay in August. Today I had to run 4 miles for my training. 4 miles isn't hard, but I sure wanted to sleep in instead.
Plus - the place I wanted to run was over 10 miles away and since I am really trying not to drive (and I didn't have an extra hour to take the bus) I decided to run closer to home. At first I was kind of pissy about it (sorry for the word folks, but no other word I could think of really described my attitude). So I woke up, fed the dogs, mulled around for a moment or two and then decided to just do it.
I head out and just 5 minutes in get that "oh yeah I am running baby" feeling. Happy to be outside, at 7 am, when it is still cool enough to run without wanting to die. I start noticing how many beautiful ducks are swimming in the Cherry Creek (I run the Cherry Creek Trail). People are all around me, running, biking, walking dogs. The city surely is alive this morning, and I get to be one of it's inhabitants. I get to participate in life outside today. I start feeling bad for all those drivers in their cars, missing the heartbeat of our city. I then feel bad for all those still asleep - and what they are missing by not being outside. The temperature will be over 94 today, so about noon I doubt anyone will be out and about comfortably.
This is when it hits me (not a car, or a biker for that matter - which is a blessing, because I swear one day I will get taken down by one of those bikers with their endorsement shirts spouting Gatorade or Tampax or whoever has sponsored these people to harass pedestrians on the Cherry Creek Trail) why procrastinate on the things I have to get done. It is so much easier to step up, complete the task, and start my day productively. Because statistically, the longer you put off doing the things you need to do, the bigger the tasks seems. Also, we know that when we don't do things we need to do it truly affects the quality of how we do all the other things.
SO - THE LONG AND THE SHORT OF IT IS THIS:
It's Monday folks. Get out of bed, the sun is shining (unless you live in Portland - sorry Katie) the birds are singing and you have things to do. What better time than right now to start your week off right.
Plus - the place I wanted to run was over 10 miles away and since I am really trying not to drive (and I didn't have an extra hour to take the bus) I decided to run closer to home. At first I was kind of pissy about it (sorry for the word folks, but no other word I could think of really described my attitude). So I woke up, fed the dogs, mulled around for a moment or two and then decided to just do it.
I head out and just 5 minutes in get that "oh yeah I am running baby" feeling. Happy to be outside, at 7 am, when it is still cool enough to run without wanting to die. I start noticing how many beautiful ducks are swimming in the Cherry Creek (I run the Cherry Creek Trail). People are all around me, running, biking, walking dogs. The city surely is alive this morning, and I get to be one of it's inhabitants. I get to participate in life outside today. I start feeling bad for all those drivers in their cars, missing the heartbeat of our city. I then feel bad for all those still asleep - and what they are missing by not being outside. The temperature will be over 94 today, so about noon I doubt anyone will be out and about comfortably.
This is when it hits me (not a car, or a biker for that matter - which is a blessing, because I swear one day I will get taken down by one of those bikers with their endorsement shirts spouting Gatorade or Tampax or whoever has sponsored these people to harass pedestrians on the Cherry Creek Trail) why procrastinate on the things I have to get done. It is so much easier to step up, complete the task, and start my day productively. Because statistically, the longer you put off doing the things you need to do, the bigger the tasks seems. Also, we know that when we don't do things we need to do it truly affects the quality of how we do all the other things.
SO - THE LONG AND THE SHORT OF IT IS THIS:
It's Monday folks. Get out of bed, the sun is shining (unless you live in Portland - sorry Katie) the birds are singing and you have things to do. What better time than right now to start your week off right.
Sunday, June 6, 2010
The Numbers Don't Lie
I started this blog over 2 weeks ago, with the hopes of journaling an experiment about giving up my car for 4 months and the impact it will have on my life.
So far, I have had a blast. Let's look at what was and now is:
Before this experiment I drove 90% of everywhere I went, biked 2% and walked 8%.
Since starting, the numbers now look like this:
Drive - 5%
Bike - 55% (hmm, could this be why my jeans are tight on my thighs, could I be developing some muscle I didn't have?)
Walk - 30%
Bus - 10%
In addition to naturally burning more calories because of the change, I notice I am eating more as well. Not sure if that is a good thing or a bad thing, we'll have to wait and see on that topic.
Also, if you have been following, you have read the stories of how I have enjoyed this great experience so far. The people I have met, the much needed reflection time, getting to know my city better. So far, it has been a true blessing. Will I be saying that on Thursday when I have to turn the car in? Who knows, but I am hopeful.
Again, thanks for following.
So far, I have had a blast. Let's look at what was and now is:
Before this experiment I drove 90% of everywhere I went, biked 2% and walked 8%.
Since starting, the numbers now look like this:
Drive - 5%
Bike - 55% (hmm, could this be why my jeans are tight on my thighs, could I be developing some muscle I didn't have?)
Walk - 30%
Bus - 10%
In addition to naturally burning more calories because of the change, I notice I am eating more as well. Not sure if that is a good thing or a bad thing, we'll have to wait and see on that topic.
Also, if you have been following, you have read the stories of how I have enjoyed this great experience so far. The people I have met, the much needed reflection time, getting to know my city better. So far, it has been a true blessing. Will I be saying that on Thursday when I have to turn the car in? Who knows, but I am hopeful.
Again, thanks for following.
Friday, June 4, 2010
My Last Weekend
My last weekend with the car. It seems kind of funny, talking about it like it was a loved animal or child. But nonetheless, Rich and I drove the car up to spend the weekend at our Grand Lake house.
Rich wanted to bring up our boat and launch it for summer, but you cannot haul the boat with my car, so the boat is taking a back seat to our last weekend together.
Again, I laugh that it all seems so funny, but I wanted to one more time drive that car over Berthoud Pass. To drive to the farmer's market in Granby. To pass Shadow Mountain lake in the passenger seat.
I am doing well, I keep telling myself. I will not miss this car.
Who am I kidding.
Rich wanted to bring up our boat and launch it for summer, but you cannot haul the boat with my car, so the boat is taking a back seat to our last weekend together.
Again, I laugh that it all seems so funny, but I wanted to one more time drive that car over Berthoud Pass. To drive to the farmer's market in Granby. To pass Shadow Mountain lake in the passenger seat.
I am doing well, I keep telling myself. I will not miss this car.
Who am I kidding.
Thursday, June 3, 2010
7 Days
So I just picked up this book from the library, as a suggestion from a client of mine, called Peaks and Valleys - Making Good and Bad Times Work for you - at Work and in Life. If you haven't read it, I recommend it. The book is short, to the point, and pretty meaningful.
Check out this quote from the author Spencer Johnson, M.D.
The Path Out of the Valley Appears When you Choose to See Things Differently
In the book he talks about being in the valley as when we are experiencing hard times and being on the peak as when we are experiencing good times. It got me thinking, is this experiment I am doing considered valley time or peak time? I really can't answer that question right now and here is why.
I would say it is a peak time because I am learning so much, meeting wonderful people and viewing our world, my world, differently. These are all great and positive examples that would lend me to believe I am on top of the peak.
However, I am also in a season of reflection. Reflection about things I don't like about myself, actions I would consider "bad" and habits I want to break. I would then assume I am in the valley.
I guess, all in all, maybe I am on the way out of the valley and heading up to the top of the peak through this experiment. In that case - I would have to say this is a good thing and I am grateful for it.
Here is my challenge to you - are you living in a valley right now or at the top of a peak? Ask yourself what that means to you and where you want to be.
I guess the real quest of living, as the author quoted above, is to see things differently (read - more positively) no matter where you are because inevitably we all will be in the valley and on top of the peak many times throughout our lives.
Here's to the climb folks.
Check out this quote from the author Spencer Johnson, M.D.
The Path Out of the Valley Appears When you Choose to See Things Differently
In the book he talks about being in the valley as when we are experiencing hard times and being on the peak as when we are experiencing good times. It got me thinking, is this experiment I am doing considered valley time or peak time? I really can't answer that question right now and here is why.
I would say it is a peak time because I am learning so much, meeting wonderful people and viewing our world, my world, differently. These are all great and positive examples that would lend me to believe I am on top of the peak.
However, I am also in a season of reflection. Reflection about things I don't like about myself, actions I would consider "bad" and habits I want to break. I would then assume I am in the valley.
I guess, all in all, maybe I am on the way out of the valley and heading up to the top of the peak through this experiment. In that case - I would have to say this is a good thing and I am grateful for it.
Here is my challenge to you - are you living in a valley right now or at the top of a peak? Ask yourself what that means to you and where you want to be.
I guess the real quest of living, as the author quoted above, is to see things differently (read - more positively) no matter where you are because inevitably we all will be in the valley and on top of the peak many times throughout our lives.
Here's to the climb folks.
Wednesday, June 2, 2010
1 Step Forward and 2 Steps Back
This morning I woke up and took my 2 dogs for their daily 1.5 mile walk around the "block" in my neighborhood. It is a little overcast today so there was a nice breeze. The smell of cut grass and flowers was wonderful. Of course, walking both my dogs by myself is quite a sight to see. Think of me as a puppet master - getting the lines tangled. Being tripped by one dog crossing over the line of the other. Picking up poop while being jumped on. I really do wish someone would video it for me so that I can post it on YouTube.
But that isn't what I want to really write about today. Today I want to discuss last night and my regression from how far I have come.
So, my neighbor/friend Hassina and I decide to go out to dinner. I suggest we walk to a nearby restaurant. We plan for 6:30. I get a call from her at 4:30 saying that she was headed to Westminster to pick up her new car and that she may be a little late because of rush hour traffic. No worries here.
Then she calls at 6:30 to say she is still there, but that they close at 7:00 so she shouldn't be too far off. Still no worries.
Then she calls at 7:30 to tell me she is just leaving. She should be here by 8:00, but since she is running late, she is just going to pick me up in her new car and we'll drive to the restaurant. "Great" I tell her, "see you soon".
Not 20 minutes later she drives up in an S550 Mercedes-Benz. Black, HOT, wonderful. I get in and sink into the buttery leather seats. The dash looks like a cockpit. It is so smooth I actually look out the window to see if we are still on the ground. I am immediately jealous, and of course happy for her, she is a beautiful/wonderful person and deserves this car. I just can't help but feel a little sad as I enter day 8 of my car "turn in" countdown.
I think I will choose to digress a little today and take my car out for some Chick-Fil-A for dinner tonight. There is nothing a spicy chicken sandwich can't fix. Right?
But that isn't what I want to really write about today. Today I want to discuss last night and my regression from how far I have come.
So, my neighbor/friend Hassina and I decide to go out to dinner. I suggest we walk to a nearby restaurant. We plan for 6:30. I get a call from her at 4:30 saying that she was headed to Westminster to pick up her new car and that she may be a little late because of rush hour traffic. No worries here.
Then she calls at 6:30 to say she is still there, but that they close at 7:00 so she shouldn't be too far off. Still no worries.
Then she calls at 7:30 to tell me she is just leaving. She should be here by 8:00, but since she is running late, she is just going to pick me up in her new car and we'll drive to the restaurant. "Great" I tell her, "see you soon".
Not 20 minutes later she drives up in an S550 Mercedes-Benz. Black, HOT, wonderful. I get in and sink into the buttery leather seats. The dash looks like a cockpit. It is so smooth I actually look out the window to see if we are still on the ground. I am immediately jealous, and of course happy for her, she is a beautiful/wonderful person and deserves this car. I just can't help but feel a little sad as I enter day 8 of my car "turn in" countdown.
I think I will choose to digress a little today and take my car out for some Chick-Fil-A for dinner tonight. There is nothing a spicy chicken sandwich can't fix. Right?
Tuesday, June 1, 2010
9 Days and Counting
9 days until this car goes bye bye. I have truly enjoyed how much fun it is to bike, walk or take the bus to places I need to go. I also recognize that I will not go car less. I will be driving places, but so far not driving EVERYWHERE has been really rewarding.
I had the chance to bike to Wash Park yesterday and just lay on the grass and listen to music for 2 hours. It was heavenly.
I also biked to Starbucks this morning and am learning how to juggle a coffee cup while riding. Needless to say, I need more work on that.
The greatest reward has been my stress level. I notice that I am sleeping better and waking earlier. I feel refreshed and am enjoying myself. That is a victory all in itself.
Count down with me, as I discover if not having a car is harder than simply choosing to not drive my car. I am curious if there is a difference. Only way to find out - give that baby back to the dealer on 6/10. 9 days and counting - here I go.
I had the chance to bike to Wash Park yesterday and just lay on the grass and listen to music for 2 hours. It was heavenly.
I also biked to Starbucks this morning and am learning how to juggle a coffee cup while riding. Needless to say, I need more work on that.
The greatest reward has been my stress level. I notice that I am sleeping better and waking earlier. I feel refreshed and am enjoying myself. That is a victory all in itself.
Count down with me, as I discover if not having a car is harder than simply choosing to not drive my car. I am curious if there is a difference. Only way to find out - give that baby back to the dealer on 6/10. 9 days and counting - here I go.
Monday, May 31, 2010
A Day to be Grateful
As with any Memorial Day, I am struck by how grateful I am to live in this country. What an amazing place to live, regardless of how "imperfect" it all is (especially right now). I want to recognize the men and women who everyday put their lives on the line to give us this blessing. Thank you very much.
I was thinking about how great this country is while I was taking the bus down to see the Colorado Rockies play yesterday (no we didn't win - darn LA Dodgers). As a new bus rider, I am being drawn into a world I never see. One of diversity, color and most importantly kindness.
As mentioned in previous posts (and I promise with no disrespect to the Cherry Creek area) I live in a pretty antiseptic, white, affluent neighborhood. But just step onto the #1 bus heading downtown and oh the sites you see. People of all different colors, religions, backgrounds, social standings and disabilities. I had the privilege of meeting a wheelchair bound woman and got to glimpse how brave she is and what a chore it is to simply ride the bus.
I met a wonderful old Mexican man, for sure travelling home after a long day of work, work he puts in 7 days a week to keep his children and children's children fed.
So many stories on the bus. So many people walking a different life path than me, but here we all are - smiling kindly to each other as we pay our fare and take a seat, on our way to different destinations, though we get on and off at the same stops.
Another profound lesson not learned driving my car from destination to destination. Lessons missed, people not met, opportunities not allowed. I continue to look forward to meeting new people, lending a hand when I can, and learning from those I never thought I needed to learn from. What lessons or opportunities do you think you are missing out on by driving everywhere you need to go? I wonder when, and if, you'll ever stop to find out. If you do, I know from experience, it will be worth it.
I was thinking about how great this country is while I was taking the bus down to see the Colorado Rockies play yesterday (no we didn't win - darn LA Dodgers). As a new bus rider, I am being drawn into a world I never see. One of diversity, color and most importantly kindness.
As mentioned in previous posts (and I promise with no disrespect to the Cherry Creek area) I live in a pretty antiseptic, white, affluent neighborhood. But just step onto the #1 bus heading downtown and oh the sites you see. People of all different colors, religions, backgrounds, social standings and disabilities. I had the privilege of meeting a wheelchair bound woman and got to glimpse how brave she is and what a chore it is to simply ride the bus.
I met a wonderful old Mexican man, for sure travelling home after a long day of work, work he puts in 7 days a week to keep his children and children's children fed.
So many stories on the bus. So many people walking a different life path than me, but here we all are - smiling kindly to each other as we pay our fare and take a seat, on our way to different destinations, though we get on and off at the same stops.
Another profound lesson not learned driving my car from destination to destination. Lessons missed, people not met, opportunities not allowed. I continue to look forward to meeting new people, lending a hand when I can, and learning from those I never thought I needed to learn from. What lessons or opportunities do you think you are missing out on by driving everywhere you need to go? I wonder when, and if, you'll ever stop to find out. If you do, I know from experience, it will be worth it.
Sunday, May 30, 2010
A New Way of Thinking
Today I woke up early. The sun was shining and the temperature was perfect enough for a walk with the dogs. So at 7 am I have both my pooches leashed up and ready to go.
Now, as I have been saying over the last few posts, I am starting to believe that not driving is less about my need for a luxury car and more about my desire to find new ways to get around. As I am experimenting with this, I am also learning other ways to help out the environment and making this world more beautiful.
As I was walking I noticed trash along side the rode. I don't get why people feel the need to litter. It is like they just can't make it the 2 minutes home to throw the trash away. They need to get it out their car now. So, why not just heave it out of the window, make it someone else's problem. That seems to work alright for them.
It doesn't, however, work alright for me, or the other walkers who get to see it. So I decided I could just complain about these people (with wicked dreams of them getting pulled over the next time they throw something out of their car window and being ticketed) but that doesn't solve anything. So I stared bringing a grocery bag with me and picking up the trash I see while walking. Once home, I sorted out the recyclables and threw the rest in my trash can. It took me an extra 1 minute to do this and of course a good hand washing after, but all in all pretty easy. I would also like to believe that I created a nicer, more beautiful walk for the people walking that same route after me.
Again, I am not an extremist. This post isn't about judging people who drive, or those who don't pick up trash while walking. It is just another point to ponder and share with those who want this world to be more beautiful. If you feel inclined, maybe next time you are out walking you'll lend a hand and pick up that beer can on the side of the road.
Now, as I have been saying over the last few posts, I am starting to believe that not driving is less about my need for a luxury car and more about my desire to find new ways to get around. As I am experimenting with this, I am also learning other ways to help out the environment and making this world more beautiful.
As I was walking I noticed trash along side the rode. I don't get why people feel the need to litter. It is like they just can't make it the 2 minutes home to throw the trash away. They need to get it out their car now. So, why not just heave it out of the window, make it someone else's problem. That seems to work alright for them.
It doesn't, however, work alright for me, or the other walkers who get to see it. So I decided I could just complain about these people (with wicked dreams of them getting pulled over the next time they throw something out of their car window and being ticketed) but that doesn't solve anything. So I stared bringing a grocery bag with me and picking up the trash I see while walking. Once home, I sorted out the recyclables and threw the rest in my trash can. It took me an extra 1 minute to do this and of course a good hand washing after, but all in all pretty easy. I would also like to believe that I created a nicer, more beautiful walk for the people walking that same route after me.
Again, I am not an extremist. This post isn't about judging people who drive, or those who don't pick up trash while walking. It is just another point to ponder and share with those who want this world to be more beautiful. If you feel inclined, maybe next time you are out walking you'll lend a hand and pick up that beer can on the side of the road.
Friday, May 28, 2010
Rediscovering my Purpose
Adrienne and Jill live about 4 miles from me. Today we decided to grab breakfast in their neighborhood at 8, so if I leave at 7 that gives me plenty of time to warm up and then run to meet them. I had to run for my training today anyways. So - I am off.
As I head up from 1st on my way to 23rd I notice a shift as I cross over several neighborhoods on my way to theirs.
My neighborhood, Cherry Creek, is antiseptic and full of stucco "mcmansions" (at least that is what the Realtor calls them). Though I loved this neighborhood when I moved in 5 years ago, I am starting to tire of it's lack of individualism and flair.
Next comes 6th and 7th Ave. Beautiful, classic brick homes that have been around since probably the beginning of Denver. Older people, long retired, taking walks hand in hand. Lawns perfect enough to be in Home & Garden.
Next up is 10th and Milwaukee. This is my favorite area so far. Smaller homes than the previous neighborhood, but beautiful and lined up in a way that all I want to do is buy one and raise a family on those elm lined streets. I start noticing the state flower - the Columbine - growing wild in manicured yards. Middle aged couples are running, walking their dogs, having coffee on their front porches.
I then cross into the 12th Ave. area. The homes become more eclectic. Some are brick, some are stucco, some are purple. I loved the feel. Younger people, dressed for success, heading off to their jobs before they start their long weekend. Nothing is consistent here, but there is beauty in the chaos of it all.
I had to take a moment to cross over Colfax. If you know Denver, Colfax is actually pretty scary. At 7 in the morning you could get high and a hooker on the same street corner. I pick up my pace.
But just 2 blocks away from that you enter into Park Hill. Young, old, married, single, families, DINK's (double income no kids). They are all here. Sipping coffee at the local bakery. Buying fresh food from the Italian market. It is wonderful and so very uplifting being able to run through it at this time of the morning.
I meet up with my friends and am struck by how different the world looks when you aren't in a car. Maybe my experiment isn't about my needing a luxury car. Maybe it is morphing into my need to slow down, realize the beauty around me, and literally stopping to smell the roses.
I believe that I am transforming as I take this journey. I now believe it is less about the vanity of my external needs and more about finding true happiness in a place where happiness has existed all along.
As I head up from 1st on my way to 23rd I notice a shift as I cross over several neighborhoods on my way to theirs.
My neighborhood, Cherry Creek, is antiseptic and full of stucco "mcmansions" (at least that is what the Realtor calls them). Though I loved this neighborhood when I moved in 5 years ago, I am starting to tire of it's lack of individualism and flair.
Next comes 6th and 7th Ave. Beautiful, classic brick homes that have been around since probably the beginning of Denver. Older people, long retired, taking walks hand in hand. Lawns perfect enough to be in Home & Garden.
Next up is 10th and Milwaukee. This is my favorite area so far. Smaller homes than the previous neighborhood, but beautiful and lined up in a way that all I want to do is buy one and raise a family on those elm lined streets. I start noticing the state flower - the Columbine - growing wild in manicured yards. Middle aged couples are running, walking their dogs, having coffee on their front porches.
I then cross into the 12th Ave. area. The homes become more eclectic. Some are brick, some are stucco, some are purple. I loved the feel. Younger people, dressed for success, heading off to their jobs before they start their long weekend. Nothing is consistent here, but there is beauty in the chaos of it all.
I had to take a moment to cross over Colfax. If you know Denver, Colfax is actually pretty scary. At 7 in the morning you could get high and a hooker on the same street corner. I pick up my pace.
But just 2 blocks away from that you enter into Park Hill. Young, old, married, single, families, DINK's (double income no kids). They are all here. Sipping coffee at the local bakery. Buying fresh food from the Italian market. It is wonderful and so very uplifting being able to run through it at this time of the morning.
I meet up with my friends and am struck by how different the world looks when you aren't in a car. Maybe my experiment isn't about my needing a luxury car. Maybe it is morphing into my need to slow down, realize the beauty around me, and literally stopping to smell the roses.
I believe that I am transforming as I take this journey. I now believe it is less about the vanity of my external needs and more about finding true happiness in a place where happiness has existed all along.
Thursday, May 27, 2010
My First Bus Adventure
Last night, after much deliberation (and a thunder storm) I decided to not ride my bike and take the bus. I have never ridden the bus in Denver before, but I had taken the train in Italy and the subway in Paris, so I figured I could handle it.
After a short walk, I sat down at the bus stop bench to wait for the number 2 bus. I was about 10 minutes early, so I decided to read a book I had brought along for the trip. After a few minutes 2 men biked up and asked if I was waiting for the number 2 or had they missed it. I confirmed it was on its way. At that time they thought it would be totally appropriate to smoke some pot. I am not kidding you people, right there on the corner of University and 1st Ave.
To give these guys some credit, they did spend about 10 minutes talking to me, educating me about transfers and schedules and then proceeded to show me how to put a bike on the front of the bus. Pretty cool dudes in my book.
I enjoyed the ride. I finished the chapter in my business book I had been ignoring and even realized how stress free it is to just ride along and let someone else worry about traffic, pedestrians and red lights.
After about 25 minutes I did my transfer from the #2 to the #32 bus. 7 short minutes later I was walking to my destination, feeling stress free and happy.
What a great way to get around, and all for $2.00.
All you readers out there (how many of them are you now - 10, 11, 12 - the numbers are staggering) if you haven't ridden the bus yet - I say just do it.
Thanks Aunt Jan and Sister-in-law Suzanne for the recommendation and the encouragement.
After a short walk, I sat down at the bus stop bench to wait for the number 2 bus. I was about 10 minutes early, so I decided to read a book I had brought along for the trip. After a few minutes 2 men biked up and asked if I was waiting for the number 2 or had they missed it. I confirmed it was on its way. At that time they thought it would be totally appropriate to smoke some pot. I am not kidding you people, right there on the corner of University and 1st Ave.
To give these guys some credit, they did spend about 10 minutes talking to me, educating me about transfers and schedules and then proceeded to show me how to put a bike on the front of the bus. Pretty cool dudes in my book.
I enjoyed the ride. I finished the chapter in my business book I had been ignoring and even realized how stress free it is to just ride along and let someone else worry about traffic, pedestrians and red lights.
After about 25 minutes I did my transfer from the #2 to the #32 bus. 7 short minutes later I was walking to my destination, feeling stress free and happy.
What a great way to get around, and all for $2.00.
All you readers out there (how many of them are you now - 10, 11, 12 - the numbers are staggering) if you haven't ridden the bus yet - I say just do it.
Thanks Aunt Jan and Sister-in-law Suzanne for the recommendation and the encouragement.
Wednesday, May 26, 2010
I NEED YOUR HELP - PLEASE
I have a problem.
Tonight I am heading out for a jewelry party with my friends Jackie and Melisa (the hostess). Here is the dilemma.
The location is 5.3 miles away. It doesn't seem like a long bike ride, but it is girls night and I kind of hoped to dress up a little. Also, there is a safety concern. It starts at 5:30 and goes to about 8:30, so it will be dark when I get back on my bike to ride home. Another consideration, they are serving wine, and I will probably partake in a glass or two.
My next option is to take Denver's RTD (bus). Not a vanity issue, but it takes over 50 minutes to get there this way.
Last option - drive my wonderful car.
I need ya'lls help. What would you do????
Tonight I am heading out for a jewelry party with my friends Jackie and Melisa (the hostess). Here is the dilemma.
The location is 5.3 miles away. It doesn't seem like a long bike ride, but it is girls night and I kind of hoped to dress up a little. Also, there is a safety concern. It starts at 5:30 and goes to about 8:30, so it will be dark when I get back on my bike to ride home. Another consideration, they are serving wine, and I will probably partake in a glass or two.
My next option is to take Denver's RTD (bus). Not a vanity issue, but it takes over 50 minutes to get there this way.
Last option - drive my wonderful car.
I need ya'lls help. What would you do????
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
I have no discipline
Tuesday, Rich has left for 8 days at the Florida house and all I want to do is eat Chick-Fil-A. Herein lies the problem, one of the closest Chick-Fil-A's to my house is 12 miles away (which takes 25 minutes in rush hour to drive). Yes, I could bike there, but let's be realistic folks, I'm not going to. I could also skip having that tasty breaded chicken sandwich, but again, not going to.
So I saddle up in my car and head out for some great food.
Hey I am human, and remember this is an experiment, not a death sentence.
I will promise to do better tomorrow.
Here I come waffle fries and a peach milkshake. YUMMY!
So I saddle up in my car and head out for some great food.
Hey I am human, and remember this is an experiment, not a death sentence.
I will promise to do better tomorrow.
Here I come waffle fries and a peach milkshake. YUMMY!
Monday, May 24, 2010
The Root of Envy
I am wondering about the root of Envy. It may seem like a strange thing to wonder about, but how many of you truly even know what Envy is? It was explained to me at church on Sunday.
Envy is when you focus on what other people have that you want but don't have. It is pretty toxic. First, it means you are not giving thanks for what you do have. Second, it takes the focus off of loving those around you. How can you love them if you envy them.
This got me thinking about this whole car thing. If I don't own a luxury car, will I envy those who do? I obviously don't want to envy them, but will I? It brings me on a deeper level during this journey, one which I welcome wholeheartedly.
Anyone reading this - do you have envy in your life? How can you go about removing that from your life?
Envy is when you focus on what other people have that you want but don't have. It is pretty toxic. First, it means you are not giving thanks for what you do have. Second, it takes the focus off of loving those around you. How can you love them if you envy them.
This got me thinking about this whole car thing. If I don't own a luxury car, will I envy those who do? I obviously don't want to envy them, but will I? It brings me on a deeper level during this journey, one which I welcome wholeheartedly.
Anyone reading this - do you have envy in your life? How can you go about removing that from your life?
Saturday, May 22, 2010
A short post, but still relevant
OK, I learned a few things today.
First - you cannot walk or ride your bike to Sam's club. Not when you are hauling 40 lbs. of hamburger meat to host a BBQ at your house.
Second - a bike doesn't cut it either at Home Depot. Could you imagine me riding back with a boat load of flowers that I planted (correction - my wonderful husband planted) in the yard today.
THE ABOVE TWO JUST DON'T WORK. I have to agree with my friend Amanda though when she said - why not trade in the status car for a more economical and sustainable car. I like the idea. After this 4 month journey, I might just have to do that.
Walking out to the backyard today for a much needed BBQ with some friends (and of course 40 lbs. of hamburger meat). Enjoy our day.
First - you cannot walk or ride your bike to Sam's club. Not when you are hauling 40 lbs. of hamburger meat to host a BBQ at your house.
Second - a bike doesn't cut it either at Home Depot. Could you imagine me riding back with a boat load of flowers that I planted (correction - my wonderful husband planted) in the yard today.
THE ABOVE TWO JUST DON'T WORK. I have to agree with my friend Amanda though when she said - why not trade in the status car for a more economical and sustainable car. I like the idea. After this 4 month journey, I might just have to do that.
Walking out to the backyard today for a much needed BBQ with some friends (and of course 40 lbs. of hamburger meat). Enjoy our day.
Friday, May 21, 2010
Driving in a car stinks
OK, maybe I am getting a little too big for my britches with this no driving thing, but let me ramble for a moment.
First, I rode with my best friend Adrienne to go walk Wash Park. No biggie except, as I mentioned yesterday, not really a great way to smell the flowers. We did, however, have the windows open and got to smell fresh mowed grass. That was a plus.
Second, I went to run errands with my husband and it was a hassle. There are way too many cars on the road and way too many traffic lights to stop at. I was so frustrated that on his way to drop me off at the mall I had him pull over and I walked the rest of the way. I did pick up an amazing pair of white jeans and silver heels, by the way (for any of you out there who really cares). Remember, no car, extra money.
Does this mean I am becoming a "uncar" snob? Is this better than being a car snob?
Whatever it means, In about 2 and a half hours I am heading out for happy hour with my birthday girlfriend Jess and I plan on walking there. It is only about 5 blocks away and you can't beat this beautiful Denver spring day.
I hope it is beautiful where you are this weekend also.
First, I rode with my best friend Adrienne to go walk Wash Park. No biggie except, as I mentioned yesterday, not really a great way to smell the flowers. We did, however, have the windows open and got to smell fresh mowed grass. That was a plus.
Second, I went to run errands with my husband and it was a hassle. There are way too many cars on the road and way too many traffic lights to stop at. I was so frustrated that on his way to drop me off at the mall I had him pull over and I walked the rest of the way. I did pick up an amazing pair of white jeans and silver heels, by the way (for any of you out there who really cares). Remember, no car, extra money.
Does this mean I am becoming a "uncar" snob? Is this better than being a car snob?
Whatever it means, In about 2 and a half hours I am heading out for happy hour with my birthday girlfriend Jess and I plan on walking there. It is only about 5 blocks away and you can't beat this beautiful Denver spring day.
I hope it is beautiful where you are this weekend also.
Thursday, May 20, 2010
It's Lilac Season
You should know, my favorite flower is the lilac. Sometimes I wake up and there is a vase of lilacs on my dresser because my husband went out early to pick them for me. They used to be in my yard, but my black thumb has killed them all (which makes me wonder where he is getting those lilacs - hmm!!).
Anyways, I still have my car but have not driven it in 4 days. Turn in day is 6/2. With that being said, I decided to combine my morning run with my Thursday morning women's bible study. It is 2 miles away, so why not!
The run was beautiful. There had to have been a million lilac bushes along the way, something I did NOT notice each time I drove there. The fragrance was amazing, fueling me on my run.
On the way home I took another way to experience a different path. I was presented with even more lilacs. It was like God (or the universe, spirit world, mother nature - whatever you are into) said "hey, thanks for not driving today - here is a gift just for you." Well, thanks God, I appreciated the beauty during my run.
What could you possibly be missing while you are driving?
Anyways, I still have my car but have not driven it in 4 days. Turn in day is 6/2. With that being said, I decided to combine my morning run with my Thursday morning women's bible study. It is 2 miles away, so why not!
The run was beautiful. There had to have been a million lilac bushes along the way, something I did NOT notice each time I drove there. The fragrance was amazing, fueling me on my run.
On the way home I took another way to experience a different path. I was presented with even more lilacs. It was like God (or the universe, spirit world, mother nature - whatever you are into) said "hey, thanks for not driving today - here is a gift just for you." Well, thanks God, I appreciated the beauty during my run.
What could you possibly be missing while you are driving?
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
Vanity Kicks In
So I am driving with my friend (in her car) to Wash Park for a run and then to Einstein Bagels for breakfast when it hits me. I am vain about what I drive but not about what other people are driving. What is that all about? I mean I could care less what others are driving, so why does it matter what kind of car I own?
Anyways, as I come home and see my car in the garage I just want to hug it. Hug it because in less than 2 weeks it will be gone. Hug it because it is more beautiful than my bike. Hug it because, darn it, I am in love with it. How did this happen? And more importantly, how do I break those chains.
Looking forward to input from ya'll as well as figuring this out over time.
Enjoy your day - I am headed to the garage for a much needed hug.
Anyways, as I come home and see my car in the garage I just want to hug it. Hug it because in less than 2 weeks it will be gone. Hug it because it is more beautiful than my bike. Hug it because, darn it, I am in love with it. How did this happen? And more importantly, how do I break those chains.
Looking forward to input from ya'll as well as figuring this out over time.
Enjoy your day - I am headed to the garage for a much needed hug.
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
2.63 MILES TO MY MASSAGE
So, today is my first day of "practice". I don't give the car up until June 1st, but I am practicing not having one.
It looked like it was going to rain today, but I had a massage and wanted to try out riding my bike to it. It was great. The ride there got me warmed up for the rub down and the ride back was amazing because I felt so good.
I highly recommend it.
I felt emotionally good about it as well, but I am starting to think it is just because that Mercedes still sits in my garage, and there is comfort in knowing I had a choice to ride my bike to the massage. Hmm?? What do you think, am I on the path to humility or just fooling myself?
I have to go walk to visit my best friend at work so we can have lunch. Hoping it doesn't rain (but I will bring an umbrella just in case).
It looked like it was going to rain today, but I had a massage and wanted to try out riding my bike to it. It was great. The ride there got me warmed up for the rub down and the ride back was amazing because I felt so good.
I highly recommend it.
I felt emotionally good about it as well, but I am starting to think it is just because that Mercedes still sits in my garage, and there is comfort in knowing I had a choice to ride my bike to the massage. Hmm?? What do you think, am I on the path to humility or just fooling myself?
I have to go walk to visit my best friend at work so we can have lunch. Hoping it doesn't rain (but I will bring an umbrella just in case).
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